tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post1221081701672680108..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : 2 year SadiversaryMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-9142350315362065382012-10-28T16:16:39.088-07:002012-10-28T16:16:39.088-07:00Melinda,
I understand starting the grieving proces...Melinda,<br />I understand starting the grieving process months in advance. My husband did not take his life, we had 2 months to prepare ourselves after a cancer diagnoses. I am in the midst of those 2 months 3 years later, it happens every year, and will forever, I'm afraid. My inner calendar goes to those days automatically this time of year, taking me right back to the days of doc appts, scans, biopsies, hospice, etc. Can't get away from it, I do hope some day it will not be as fresh as it still is now. I think/hope that the grief will ebb and flow over time, and not be as intense as it was in the first several years. I won't be surprised if it is always with me, for the rest of my life. It's not something you get over, not matter how long ago it happened. Accepting it has made me more compassionate to others on this same journey. Thanks for sharing your story, it helps to realize others are out there too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11329349456859713112012-10-28T09:59:05.024-07:002012-10-28T09:59:05.024-07:00Melinda, I am so sorry for all you have had to end...Melinda, I am so sorry for all you have had to endure. Two years is not very long at grieving the loss of a husband. This blogging should help a lot, though. Getting it all out is the best thing. I hear you and so do so many others. Suicide is the shits. Time will help, but it doesn't commpletely diminish the ugliness of self-inflicted gun shots. I am sorry you had to see that wound. I chose immediate cremation to save myself and especially my children the last image of their father with such a wound. I am proud I spared them that, and now they can just remember him hugging them good bye that morning before school. He did love us. I have no doubt. It still hurts to think that he was hurting so much and I could not help him. Thank you for letting ME get it all out. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-32312793212732324962012-10-28T06:13:15.241-07:002012-10-28T06:13:15.241-07:00I'm coming up on two years this December..I...I'm coming up on two years this December..I'm still so numb. Thank you so much...this morning I realized I don't walk this alone. <3Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00497038751410358786noreply@blogger.com