tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post1836155207569299543..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : A Good Cup of CoffeeMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-90054871531556773402015-01-11T07:18:26.060-08:002015-01-11T07:18:26.060-08:00Hi Stephanie.
Thank you for writing for us all.
I...Hi Stephanie.<br />Thank you for writing for us all.<br /><br />I too have a new guy. He came in and filled a void after almost 2 years of being alone. (I married young and was with Dave for over 25 years.) <br />It's hard to start out with someone new that you have no history with. Been with new guy for almost 3 years now and we're slowing creating our own history.<br />However we're not as close as I'd like and I'm beginning to wonder if I chose someone that's a little emotionally distant on purpose. (I'm not talking marriage or even living together. I just wished we'd open up to each other more. But then I think, that no one person can be everything for me and I should give my head a shake. Lol! He's a great guy and I honestly feel that he would never hurt me.<br /><br />I also like this:<br />"It is also hard to see clearly a new way forward while still looking back so often in grief."<br />Sometimes I feel guilt if I'm happy, but I'm so sick of being sad! WTF!<br /><br />Anyway. Thanks for writing.<br />I love the chipped mug and that looks like a very decent cup of java.<br />Good job!Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04512708135377541004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-80399695773603564612015-01-09T14:41:52.290-08:002015-01-09T14:41:52.290-08:00Kelley, that is a great gift and I am grateful for...Kelley, that is a great gift and I am grateful for it. I cannot say yet how things will evolve with him long term...that is a work in progress. It's hard because it's so different from the great love I know I DID have with Mike - I know I cannot compare or have expectations (my grief therapist is awesome to talk to about this btw). It is also hard to see clearly a new way forward while still looking back so often in grief. But he is there, and it is something, and it is important. I surely do wish I could share it with everyone. xoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692228819480165657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-13005641039252877262015-01-09T14:35:01.207-08:002015-01-09T14:35:01.207-08:00It is somehow very difficult to tell the world abo...It is somehow very difficult to tell the world about all these things. But I'm glad I have, it it helps anyone even a tiny bit. I wish I could say I was strong enough to have ventured out and found him...but he literally landed in my lap and it took me awhile to recognize it. I was very resistant for a long time. But I'm glad I changed my mind and allowed the impossible, as you rightly call it, to become possible.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692228819480165657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-29655071708432136262015-01-09T08:18:06.011-08:002015-01-09T08:18:06.011-08:00Beautiful post Stephanie. I really hope that one d...Beautiful post Stephanie. I really hope that one day, I have my next great love to sit beside me, and that he is unthreatened by Don, the way yours is unthreatened . That is such a great gift. Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-4636212986431901642015-01-09T01:14:41.250-08:002015-01-09T01:14:41.250-08:00You are so brave for venturing out to find another...You are so brave for venturing out to find another love. At this point in my grief, I cannot imagine it. But it is only 7 months, today. 7 months. I am sorry you have to give up your house, eventually. And I am happy for you, that you are settling in to a new life. It seems impossible to me, at this moment, but it is inspiring that others have gone before me and are doing it, living this life, without him. Tricia Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133585754425129198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-3688687833876082342015-01-08T14:37:52.825-08:002015-01-08T14:37:52.825-08:00Hi Sharon. I'm glad to hear this, and thank yo...Hi Sharon. I'm glad to hear this, and thank you for commenting. It's important that we can share this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692228819480165657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-84065724323507266302015-01-08T14:37:20.041-08:002015-01-08T14:37:20.041-08:00Hi Ruthie, well I sure hope there are more good gu...Hi Ruthie, well I sure hope there are more good guys out there. There will never be anyone like Mike, and I am often reminded how different things are now, but, sometimes, different can be ok too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692228819480165657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-62494437920279553622015-01-08T11:54:04.646-08:002015-01-08T11:54:04.646-08:00There are many of us out here who are in new relat...There are many of us out here who are in new relationships. It is nice to read about what others are going through in this area. I've been through so much of what you have written about. Thanks for being willing to write about it.Now Choose Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14550408414439805791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-84859212136301084612015-01-08T05:26:53.520-08:002015-01-08T05:26:53.520-08:00Your "new guy" sounds quite amazing. It ...Your "new guy" sounds quite amazing. It is good to hear that someone can be so supportive and understanding. I like to think that there are other guys out there just like him. It has been more than 2 years since my husband died suddenly and I am thinking of trying to date. Pretty scary. Your post makes me realize that there are still good men out there. Ruthienoreply@blogger.com