tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post1940941290059219267..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : perspective driven purgingMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-56868000325063086852012-02-23T10:17:46.274-08:002012-02-23T10:17:46.274-08:00My Danny was a pack rat too.. I remember saying to...My Danny was a pack rat too.. I remember saying to him, "You need to do something with that garage" Well he would go out there look at it for awhile and come back and say "well I did" He even took our daughter out there and told her mom said I need to clean some of this stuff out..so they stayed out there for two hours and she played the game with hm..LOL I never knew that till he passed and she shared that with me..lol Well the joke became ours, hers and mine when we had to purge the garage. We found stuff and just laughter and threw away, saying what in the world did he want with this. Now the garage is totally empty and w care making it into a different kind of storage, mine..but Im purging too. He once told me, if u go out in my garage and throw anything out I will go to your sewing room...OH NO!!!! So, my next step is my sewing room, and I know I will find "what the heck was I thinking when Ibought this?" I will let it go...I too cleaned out my husbands' mother mobile, all her crap..I don't want my girls to have to do that for me.<br />JackieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-64770049210727756002012-02-23T08:52:51.475-08:002012-02-23T08:52:51.475-08:00My husband was the pack rat, he saved things from ...My husband was the pack rat, he saved things from his parents that I have since tossed or given away. It is hard at first to purge, but gets easier when you realize you don't need it in a closet or drawer, taking up space, and only being reminded of that life when you look upon it. I wonder what my trash hauler thinks each week, it's always an interesting mix going his way! I have not moved yet, but know that day is coming, so I continue to let go of stuff.<br />I purged my in-laws house of 40 years, my parents house of 50 years, and now mine. I've resolved my children will not have to do the same for me. I better get back to work!Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570834729233447022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-85305334963298914912012-02-23T08:33:35.334-08:002012-02-23T08:33:35.334-08:00Right there, too. In my move, I got rid of 95% of ...Right there, too. In my move, I got rid of 95% of our stuff. Started fresh with new furniture and a MUCH smaller place so I just HAD to get rid of things. I even donated all his clothes and shoes. I kept a few boxes of his things I couldn't yet let go of. <br />I feel lighter too. It seems like every item from "before" just stabbed me in the heart. The new things don't remind me of how much I've lost. I know how much I lost. I don't need constant reminders. <br />Most of the things I KNEW I wanted to keep were pictures and cards/letters. There were a few items that felt like a betrayal to ditch, like his diploma, but I also don't feel an extreme sentimental attachment to. Those were the hardest to deal with. <br />I kept trying to imagine him saying "It's just stuff. I don't need it anymore. You don't need it anymore. Let it go."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com