tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post2051577577867196679..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Trust ......Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-59947042194773224122012-09-22T12:53:27.024-07:002012-09-22T12:53:27.024-07:00Yes, I do have some anger left, but not nearly as ...Yes, I do have some anger left, but not nearly as much as I did. And no, I am not stuck. My life and I are moving forward and I'm very happy. I have been blessed in so many ways ..... way more than I have not been blessed. <br />He was one person in my life. Only one. He left some damage in his wake, but nothing that can't be fixed. And I don't spend much time at all thinking about him. I don't let myself spend time on him. <br />However, if I chose to do that because I needed time to figure things out and to not let it happen again, then I think that's perfectly fine. We all know, better than most, that we each have our own timelines on healing. And we don't judge each other. <br />Thanks for being concerned, but trust me...... I have closed that chapter and am looking ahead, just as I wrote. I only wrote about it here because I'd bet I'm not the only widow who's felt used. And my goal is, as always, to write honestly so that others know they're normal. <br />Whatever that means. Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-34838179164735392692012-09-21T11:24:49.285-07:002012-09-21T11:24:49.285-07:00I agree. By devoting this much time and anger at ...I agree. By devoting this much time and anger at him, you're giving him undeserved power and importance. You made a mistake thinking a guy was something he wasn't, and that sucks, but it's happened to everyone at one time or another. I think it must be hard to come out so publicly about your hopes for this new relationship, and then have it not work out, and to feel that you have to explain it. I hate anyone telling me to "let it go" or "move on", regarding my husband's death - but in the case of this jerk, I think the phrase applies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-25076297556229187172012-09-20T14:11:23.346-07:002012-09-20T14:11:23.346-07:00Janine, You sound incredibly angry and somewhat st...Janine, You sound incredibly angry and somewhat stuck. Hope you are able to work through this quickly and move on. He's just not worth this kind of emotion and you have so much else going for you. HugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-50505430408995812002012-09-19T04:07:19.709-07:002012-09-19T04:07:19.709-07:00Oh Janine, I am so sorry you have had a rough expe...Oh Janine, I am so sorry you have had a rough experience but look how much you've learned about yourself! Be grateful, often we women don't realize the mess we're in until it's too late. I want to congratulate you on being brave enough to follow your good sense. Well done! Sending you hugs and good wishes. And remember there are still some gorgeous, kind and caring men out there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com