tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post2572495491726184967..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : AnxietyMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-67673186108295632642013-06-18T08:34:39.532-07:002013-06-18T08:34:39.532-07:00I am a recent widow myself 4-28-3013. 34 w 2 littl...I am a recent widow myself 4-28-3013. 34 w 2 little girls and I have horrible anxiety. Reading this is nice to know I'm not alone. I haven't found hardly any food that stays down. I got on med called Buspar. Its once a day for anxiety not depression. U may want to talk to your dr about it. Worth a try right? Thank u for this blog!! It really helps reading other stories w ideas. Hang n there!KLHnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-85916208375077786642013-06-10T13:30:55.119-07:002013-06-10T13:30:55.119-07:00I have the toothbrush fight in the mornings. So, ...I have the toothbrush fight in the mornings. So, no more breakfast. I only want to eat spanish rice with salsa. Everything else is grody. I can't make a decision worth beans right now and I never had that problem before. I used to be the one to make decisions with family and now they keep asking me things and I have had to say for real you need to make the choice. Like what restaurant? I don't know. Should we come stay with you? I don't know. Do you need help with anything? I don't know.colimachiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04903718139469754305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-63744489855130245872013-06-09T15:37:40.574-07:002013-06-09T15:37:40.574-07:00I'm sorry to hear you have so much pain for so... I'm sorry to hear you have so much pain for so long. It has been 13 months now since Laura died and lately I've been wondering what it would be like for her had I been lead and she following and seeing me in an accident that resulted in death. Financially, I think it would have been much harder for her as I earned three times what she did. Granted we had insurance on me, just in case I died first, but now I know it wouldn't have been enough. <br /> Anxiety use to be a good thing, it would put an edge on an upcoming presentation, or job interview. Now it makes me dread the holidays, a birthday, or anniversary.<br /> Someone mentioned yoga, I find that mindfulness practice helps.Over50Cyclinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16326906021817677829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-36706957983873980102013-06-09T08:06:17.139-07:002013-06-09T08:06:17.139-07:00I hear both of you! Anxiety gets the best of me t...I hear both of you! Anxiety gets the best of me too. I was finally able to get off the meds, after 7 years of mostly on them. I try to control those feelings with yoga now. Just try what ever you can that gives you some relief. Even yoga takes practice and a lot of time to reap any real benefits, but I feel it is beginning to making a difference for me after two years of work. I feel so lucky to have you guys posts. So honest. Thank you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-52100033263512136452013-06-09T07:02:47.620-07:002013-06-09T07:02:47.620-07:00Our spouse would want us to live of not to forget,...Our spouse would want us to live of not to forget, but to go on and be productive with our life. Each day we waste is a day gone by and can't take back. Pushing yourself isn't easy, to take control and give direction of your life. There are things to overcome, but we really have that inner feeling we can do it just takes time.<br />I now do what my wife use to do, and I take pride of what I really can do. Foods have less interest, because I don't get those special dishes she made. Not much of today is the same and I don't expect it to be, I now have that new life to live, a challenge, a struggle day by day. But in my heart that is what my wife would want me to do..<br />Peace be with you..<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-27244450125456153452013-06-09T06:38:24.165-07:002013-06-09T06:38:24.165-07:00Anxiety and with it, loss of appetite and ability ...Anxiety and with it, loss of appetite and ability to sleep is one of my biggest battles since Dave died. It comes and goes. The last bout I had, I finally bought liquid replacement meals like I had to survive on right after he died. I can get them down. Sometimes just getting something down will help me feel better overall (blood sugar levels) and then I can eat more. I like your therapist's advice and that has really worked for me too. For a while there, it was microwave mac and cheese in single serve containers. It was ALL I could get down. It was the first time in a long time I allowed something with artificial anything into my house but I didn't want to barf it up and could actually get it down without a struggle, so I ate it up. When it's gotten really bad, I have turned to anxiety meds. They sometimes take the edge off enough to eat a little. Also, I've noticed that if I am with friends I love being with, I sometimes can eat better. As for the sleep, that's a constant project too. Meds help, but also just really really confronting the feelings and sometimes crying myself to sleep helps, too. When I try to fight the feelings, my anxiety ramps up even more. I've never experienced anxiety like this. It's incredibly difficult, so I'm sorry you're going through it too, Melinda. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com