tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post323289103473051712..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : One Thought at a TimeMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-51779484058795427992013-05-13T17:49:10.169-07:002013-05-13T17:49:10.169-07:00To those of you feeling your are just existing, fr...To those of you feeling your are just existing, from further down Grief Road, I want to share that indeed there IS life beyond existence...it WILL come. I know how hard it is. Have faith. Be gentle and loving with yourself and when you find those little moments (which at first are admittedly rare) where there's a bit of spare energy in your heart for it, make little changes in your perspective...try thinking something new and slightly different from your usual...whatever that broken record for you is in your sadness and your fears, just shift it slightly for just a minute. Sometimes that didn't seem to do much for me, but SOMETIMES the smallest shifts in perspective brought me tremendous healing and comfort. I wish this for you all too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-38239568830893304972013-05-13T11:02:47.718-07:002013-05-13T11:02:47.718-07:00I worry too, the list is long, one thing after the...I worry too, the list is long, one thing after the other. I try to tell myself "DON'T" ...worrying about something that might happen but then doesn't is a waste of time, it usually, but not always, does not turn out like you think it will. So why worry about something that you have no control over, you've just wasted time over something that may never happen. Easy to say, not so easy to do.<br /><br /> Cassie, I like your job description: "to make my dad's, my momma's and Dave's existence worth it by making mine worth it." The power of that thought will keep you going, and I have hope that you will succeed.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570834729233447022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-44270772344637781442013-05-13T09:14:52.894-07:002013-05-13T09:14:52.894-07:00I too merely exist, as I have no family or friends...I too merely exist, as I have no family or friends in the small town in which I live, nor are there any activities here. I spend everyday worrying myself sick about everything. My husband died 16 months ago. I should sell my large, high-maintenance house and move, but I don't know where I would move or even how. This morning I dropped my car at a repair shop and walked two miles home. As I walk, I wonder if I'll pay much more for the repair than my husband would have. How long will the car last I worry. I keep pushing through one day at a time without making progress. It's hard to believe anything will ever get better.<br />Wishing peace and perseverence to all.Gaylenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-33368187855378792672013-05-13T06:49:12.595-07:002013-05-13T06:49:12.595-07:00Going back for good and not so good things is okay...Going back for good and not so good things is okay, as long as we understand of not going back to far that we can't come back to our reality of widowhood. I can't agree with you more of the struggles we face each and every day. Should be an answer for every question we have, it's' out in space somewhere that we keep searching for. My life now is more of existence than being happy of doing things. I keep pushing forward each day and hope it will get better.<br />Peace be with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-65800785336521673502013-05-13T05:27:51.993-07:002013-05-13T05:27:51.993-07:00Nicely said, Cassie. I hate that my worry robs me ...Nicely said, Cassie. I hate that my worry robs me of beautiful days and restful nights. Now that my husband is no longer here to curtly say, "Get a grip, Janice" I go way overboard.<br />I guess it is up to us "worriers" to quit letting worry take away the small moments of peace we have in our lives. Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13119305752920928805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-17254900879717857852013-05-13T03:25:39.880-07:002013-05-13T03:25:39.880-07:00yes. yes. I know that I wasn't worried at all,...yes. yes. I know that I wasn't worried at all, had no -inkling- of danger at all the day matt died. So now I find myself (sometimes) scoffing at those brain loops - yeah? I think you are opposite day. Every time there was no danger, you worried, and the one time there was - not even a blip. <br /><br />And like you, I had just recently let go of my fear/belief/feeling that the one I love was going to die suddenly. And then - he did.<br /><br />Sending you some love from one logical-illogical brain to another. meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064483599165161879noreply@blogger.com