tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post3674335423909775341..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : There's No Comparison ......Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-2339933430008311262013-03-06T21:01:16.652-08:002013-03-06T21:01:16.652-08:00You ended that with the truest statement ever IT S...You ended that with the truest statement ever IT SUCKS!! A year ago I would have never imagined I'd be in the position I find myself in right now. I find myself fighting to have others view me as a widow. So often people have a stereotype in their head of what a widow should be and I don't fit that image. I don't have dependent children, I have a full time job, I wasn't married to him decades, I wasn't his first wife, he wasn't my first husband, I smile to much... on and on. I want to start handing out cards with the definition of widow on it. I lost my husband, I was his third wife, he was my second husband and I smile because I knew him!Memories of Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16675244464777435446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-12563484235671758712013-03-06T15:10:33.867-08:002013-03-06T15:10:33.867-08:00We just had this discussion on one of the WV forum...We just had this discussion on one of the WV forums. I am often grateful that my kids are grown & on their own, but I met a lovely young woman at CWE last year who was so grateful that her kids were still little and she was busy with them. It helped fill the void. We are where we are. We just have to learn to accept what we've been handed as gracefully as we can. Not easy, but necessary!bogienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-15391274542206640452013-03-06T11:19:21.057-08:002013-03-06T11:19:21.057-08:00Janine, so interesting that I do find myself compa...Janine, so interesting that I do find myself comparing my plight to that of another widow. Usually my main objective is to keep telling myself others have it worse than I do. But like you said, it seldom works and "grief is grief" and so toally sucks. <br /><br />I do lose my patience when my grief progress is compared with that of others. Those folks only succeed in making me feel emotionally weak. I get tired of listening. <br /><br />So a great big thanks.......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-44401890881796716642013-03-06T10:54:07.014-08:002013-03-06T10:54:07.014-08:00Thank you, you hit the nail on the head. I feel be...Thank you, you hit the nail on the head. I feel better knowing that there are others who really understand. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-50939603722602345562013-03-06T08:58:14.728-08:002013-03-06T08:58:14.728-08:00well said!!!!!!!!well said!!!!!!!!Mama_Bear_Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10073248027364028080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-30853379902217576232013-03-06T08:39:04.949-08:002013-03-06T08:39:04.949-08:00thank you for posting
sometimes I feel very alone,...thank you for posting<br />sometimes I feel very alone, but not after reading this<br />thx<br />marciAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-1469901166398948282013-03-06T04:59:27.356-08:002013-03-06T04:59:27.356-08:00Janine, so true.
I always say it is just one kind ...Janine, so true.<br />I always say it is just one kind of hell versus another. It's like saying want to go up in flames or have someone pierce you with a thousand nails. Who wants any of it?<br /><br />Grief is grief. Every grief has its own personal hell and dare I say gifts. Maybe we just have to meet other widows with the only really gift we can give the answer "me too." and an offer of support and caring.<br />That's what you do every time you write.<br />Thanks so much. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-16542047114365397642013-03-06T04:37:25.489-08:002013-03-06T04:37:25.489-08:00very true for some many reasons for so many differ...very true for some many reasons for so many different comparisons... thx for postingMell22Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00597435579326381423noreply@blogger.com