tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post3927222468243368840..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : The Positive Side of AwfulMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11664514605957670292012-02-24T22:07:07.243-08:002012-02-24T22:07:07.243-08:00I want to marry you Matt.... Wow, what a truly i...I want to marry you Matt.... Wow, what a truly incredible post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-14533651922742292352011-01-26T19:17:49.335-08:002011-01-26T19:17:49.335-08:00Wow, you write beautifully, Matt. Just change the...Wow, you write beautifully, Matt. Just change the names and it's my story and my thoughts. Hope to see you on here again!Jodinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-23955198806118416132011-01-25T19:59:18.829-08:002011-01-25T19:59:18.829-08:00Don't know what to say... I so relate.Don't know what to say... I so relate.tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10262384448836310294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-27445513486551134742011-01-24T18:25:42.449-08:002011-01-24T18:25:42.449-08:00Thank you for sharing. I feel this way every day....Thank you for sharing. I feel this way every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-74141745969580725032011-01-23T19:14:30.566-08:002011-01-23T19:14:30.566-08:00I agree with all of you. It is such a shame that w...I agree with all of you. It is such a shame that we have to wait til death to learn this lesson. I wish James was still here so that I can truly show him how much I appreciate all that he had done. I wish I could have been a better wife to him and show him every day how much I love him.<br /><br />Ellen, thank you for sharing that quote. It is so true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-61966869578266235492011-01-23T16:06:47.887-08:002011-01-23T16:06:47.887-08:00Great post. So many times in the last 11 months, ...Great post. So many times in the last 11 months, I have wished that my husband could be with me again so he could see what a better wife I would have become. He preached patience with our young adult kids and only after his death did I become that kind of a mother. Hopefully all of our spouses are smiling!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-87450810158901301762011-01-23T10:53:46.632-08:002011-01-23T10:53:46.632-08:00I agree with all of you. It is a hidden gift of th...I agree with all of you. It is a hidden gift of the loss of a spouse. As Soren Kerkegaard said, "Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward."Ellen Gersthttp://bit.ly/cxpiZ0noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-59732602383220660512011-01-23T09:20:38.554-08:002011-01-23T09:20:38.554-08:00So true Matt and Dan, I've discovered the same...So true Matt and Dan, I've discovered the same thing since Don died, about myself. I makes me feel like crap to know that him dying made me change my outlook on a lot of things. I'm thankful I've changed but it would have been so much nicer if it could have been before. I just pray that he connects with my thoughts and knows how much I thank him for ALL he did for me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-49130629013919087562011-01-23T07:07:28.655-08:002011-01-23T07:07:28.655-08:00Well said. After my spouse Michael died, the kids ...Well said. After my spouse Michael died, the kids noticed that I had taken on some of his good qualities, namely being a more patient dad. I tend to be the typical "tow the line" kind of dad, so having this new softer approach was something the kids have a real appreciation for. They are also quick to acknwledge that I have taken on these positive attributes that Michael possessed, and feel that because he is gone that I now make that extra effort to continue his influence in our home.<br /><br />Am I a better person at this point? Likely. Am I a different person? Definitely.<br /><br />Yes, like it or not, we are changed.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02218009891182171803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-92167770290393177932011-01-23T06:53:44.131-08:002011-01-23T06:53:44.131-08:00Wow. I've had these same feelings myself. Al...Wow. I've had these same feelings myself. All the things I have learned from my husband's death feel so disloyal because he's not here to benefit from them. It's not fair, but as we've all learned the hard way, life isn't fair. Thanks for sharing your experience.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-63988042054939053572011-01-23T06:43:33.418-08:002011-01-23T06:43:33.418-08:00What a beautiful post Matthew. Thank you.What a beautiful post Matthew. Thank you.olsonfoodshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06511559130640162558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-89726065116344011952011-01-23T05:51:55.579-08:002011-01-23T05:51:55.579-08:00I so identify with what you have written here. Hi...I so identify with what you have written here. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but it is also cruel.Boohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-15667131535628845702011-01-23T03:42:35.369-08:002011-01-23T03:42:35.369-08:00I definately agree with you. I wish my husband wer...I definately agree with you. I wish my husband were here so I could finally show him how much I appreciate all the little things he did!Inever realized how much they meant until he was no lomger here to do them. Death is a wake up call for all of us, I just wish it was a lesson we could learn another way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com