tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post4308069067940039791..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Not Feeling ItMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-24808064066047889112009-10-25T22:15:48.611-07:002009-10-25T22:15:48.611-07:00I've always thought that, as hard as that firs...I've always thought that, as hard as that first year was, it was still somehow <i>easier</i> in some ways too. I expected it to be awful and tough and that I'd be emotional (even if I wasn't all the time)...but I had no idea what to expect with the 2nd or 3rd years. I had no idea that "normal" would turn into a more cerebral, internal, thinking/processing grief, rather than the external outpouring I often had the first year.<br /><br />"Is this a 'normal' part of grief? Do others have these moments where pain, and happiness, escape them? Is this is way to give my heart a rest? I'm not sure." I'd say yes. And I'd also say it'll take a few more years before it really hits a better, more comfortable balance. Which isn't to say that the grief is all done by 4, 5 years out, because it certainly isn't; it's just a little easier to separate out your reactions, emotions, and grief (on most days, anyway).<br /><br />Hang in there, babe. Thinking of you and the little ones always. Hugs!Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-64285738901561672962009-10-23T14:17:12.700-07:002009-10-23T14:17:12.700-07:00I have moments like this too. Sometimes I wonder w...I have moments like this too. Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I was telling someone about my husband's death not too long ago. She apologized for her tears and told me that I was such a strong woman. I did not feel strong at all. Inside, my heart was breaking in pieces. I just could not cry. I don't know why this happens.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-18355234379292291372009-10-23T11:03:12.860-07:002009-10-23T11:03:12.860-07:00Jackie! What a wonderful post and with such timing...Jackie! What a wonderful post and with such timing! I have been wondering if I am the only one who wishes for pain sometimes just so I can feel. Thank you!Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06127101440362495832noreply@blogger.com