tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post4308150486069029732..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : are you lonesome tonight....Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-80926111370173734812010-07-28T08:03:39.765-07:002010-07-28T08:03:39.765-07:00I couldn't have said this better myself. I lo...I couldn't have said this better myself. I love being in a relationship but I hate dating. I hated it before I met James; I can't express how much I hate being in a situation of facing dating again.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15133504320361109502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-80427308339839254252010-07-26T20:52:36.593-07:002010-07-26T20:52:36.593-07:00Well said. Sadly so. If its any consolation to k...Well said. Sadly so. If its any consolation to know you are not alone with your feelings, then know I feel the same way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379078753186097008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-57872877586193258312010-07-25T05:54:20.985-07:002010-07-25T05:54:20.985-07:00I don't think anyone wants to start over when ...I don't think anyone wants to start over when what they seemed to be all they would ever need or want, but people do - all the time.<br /><br />I was 42 with a three year old. I started dating at about 8 months. It wasn't any more fun than I remembered it as I always found dating a chore.<br /><br />I met my second husband - by chance - on a message board for widowed folk. I was 11 months out and he was 4 and 1/2. We were friends and over the course of a month and a bit, we realized that we could be more. Not really different from the way most relationships start out. Six months later we married.<br /><br />And it became comfy quickly and he loves my daughter even when she is prickly (and she loves him). And my middle-aged body and the quirks that I worried would doom me to loneliness don't bother him at all.<br /><br />Don't worry so much. If you want to love again, you will be able to when the right person comes along and they will see you as the awesome catch that you are. Dating and falling love haven't changed though - there are still ups and down, try not to dwell on the down.anniehttp://anniegirl1138.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-78370010170115117232010-07-24T18:28:31.866-07:002010-07-24T18:28:31.866-07:00Nice to know Im not driving myself crazy thinking ...Nice to know Im not driving myself crazy thinking the same exact things! Thank you for these words I couldnt have said it better .......Lee Annnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-82305185105166519352010-07-23T22:24:37.394-07:002010-07-23T22:24:37.394-07:00Jackie, you took the words right out of my mouth. ...Jackie, you took the words right out of my mouth. I - honest to God - was gonna post the SAME exact thing, but you worded it SO much better than I ever could have. <br /><br />I'll marry you! =P XOXOXOAndrea Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15189207912039017496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-59650583028250399462010-07-23T18:04:04.196-07:002010-07-23T18:04:04.196-07:00amen, too.amen, too.megannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-59808534792742729802010-07-23T13:17:41.404-07:002010-07-23T13:17:41.404-07:00My thoughts exactly!My thoughts exactly!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17397771560619869121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-45293384374017413352010-07-23T12:39:35.159-07:002010-07-23T12:39:35.159-07:00So raw, yet so true! Does lightning strike twice? ...So raw, yet so true! Does lightning strike twice? Seems hard to believe that I can find someone who had the characteristics I deserve and expect. Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life? At 28 (or any age), it's a scary thought. I didn't sign up for this. We did everything "right"- finished college, no kids before marriage, owned a home, financially stable, etc.! It's hard to stay positive when you've lost everything- especially the future. As for dating, it seems like such an up hill battle. For now, my life is one big ?<br /><br />Connie H.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-69376932626263005832010-07-23T05:31:17.283-07:002010-07-23T05:31:17.283-07:00Beautiful description of the feeling of loss and g...Beautiful description of the feeling of loss and grief. I, too, lost the love of my life, my husband of 16 years after a long ordeal with cancer. I dated for years after he died, had two marriage proposals, but in the end, I realized that all I was doing was running down blind alleys, looking to replace John. But John, the father of my two sons, was irreplaceable. What do you do when Prince Charming makes a final and dramatic exit from your life? How do you start over in middle age? And can you? These are the questions I posed and which I write about in my upcoming memoir, "Again in a Heartbeat." I have found memoir to be very healing.Susan G. Weidenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15556116941678051541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-23225956041834984352010-07-23T05:15:49.475-07:002010-07-23T05:15:49.475-07:00Jackie,I can relate to all of this! I am at that s...Jackie,I can relate to all of this! I am at that stage too. Where I do not want to be lonely but do not want all of the bullshit that dating might bring. I ever came close to signing up for a dating service, but decided against it. I want love to find me without the work of it all and I also keep thinking about my kids and their dad and how difficult it will be to find someone who can live up to his memory. He wasn't perfect, but I loved him flaws and all! But I also know a day will come when I am ready and I will take the steps to date or like my husband, my new love will find me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com