tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post4625320502087439934..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Survivors' GuiltMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-60849377193617839182017-08-15T20:34:00.574-07:002017-08-15T20:34:00.574-07:00We've kept our original Widow's Voice blog...We've kept our original Widow's Voice blogs here for reference but you'll find our current blogs on the Soaring Spirits web site: http://www.soaringspirits.org/blogSoaring Spiritshttp://www.soaringspirits.org/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-26611656742497136342017-08-10T12:21:10.926-07:002017-08-10T12:21:10.926-07:00I am still feeling guilty each time I have a reall...I am still feeling guilty each time I have a really happy moment. My husband died suddenly 9 years ago this November, he was only 49. I have met someone lovely recently but cannot commit as the guilt is overwhelming me. The crazy thing is my husband's last words to me were "have lots of fun". Talking about this with anyone who does not have a clue what you are on about doesn't help. Lyndseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-7579883965414809062013-10-29T11:11:12.657-07:002013-10-29T11:11:12.657-07:00I have it too. This year we downsized to a smalle...I have it too. This year we downsized to a smaller house but what turned out to be a great neighborhood for our kids. I feel guilty that I like it here better. <br />I graduated from college and feel guilty about being excited about a new career when the only reason I had to do it was because he died. <br />Feeling guilty about having a good life while he id still dead and not able to to enjoy it with us.<br />I try to push it aside and realize life goes on but it is hard. <br />kalevesquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337315740863319738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-67051237282585082142013-10-15T08:14:45.930-07:002013-10-15T08:14:45.930-07:00The guilt is hard for me as well. We have five ki...The guilt is hard for me as well. We have five kids and I feel guilty because I get to enjoy them, and watch them do all the things he is missing. The first time our son played t-ball I left and cried because daddies should be there for that kind of thing! Its been two years today. Today I am not going to feel guilty. I will remind myself that "Life is for the living" and I'm going to go watch our daughter play basketball tonight, and we will live! <br /><br />http://wifetowidow.blogspot.com/mrs-mc25https://www.blogger.com/profile/07465830061119981833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-39302431120350715242013-10-13T17:52:09.430-07:002013-10-13T17:52:09.430-07:00Survivor's Guilt is a constant in my life too....Survivor's Guilt is a constant in my life too. My husband died 6 weeks ago. People say the pain gets lessened over time. I hope so. I get by -by taking one day or one thing at a time. I had to just go NUMB. I STILL haven't had a Good Howling Grief-Filled Bawl!! I am afraid too! I am ALONE most of the Time unfortunately. Dealing with Survivor's Guilt almost did me in-until I learned to think, "What would I want my Husband to do if our situation was Reversed? Suffer with Guilt? Or BE HAPPY, as he told Me to do!" So I push aside all bad , sad feelings/thoughts, and remember what He wanted for me..and I picture Him smiling and Laughing and then I do my best to ENJOY the Day-event-situation! Bless You!Beasweetie59https://www.blogger.com/profile/09635294554066435082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-91384000578721557522013-10-13T04:53:10.464-07:002013-10-13T04:53:10.464-07:00We do have a life to live and enjoy, even though o...We do have a life to live and enjoy, even though our past is not far behind. It's hard for me to do things that my wife enjoyed. Nice to wish, but wishing has little comfort. As you know we have choices to make of what we want and enjoy our life to have peace. I can't ignore the past, but I can't ignore the future either.<br />God Bless<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com