tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post4649543787293210303..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : DifferentMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-50700213122690976382012-04-09T06:04:13.997-07:002012-04-09T06:04:13.997-07:00Anonymous, you are so welcome. Holidays are parti...Anonymous, you are so welcome. Holidays are particularly difficult with so many memories and expectation. I have another good quote from one of Woody Allen's movies, "Tradition is the illusion of permanence." As so many others who have found new love (I have not) continually say, one cannot replace or stop loving the one you lost. Grief is life long no matter who else enters your life. <br />I hope you are planning to go to Camp Widow. If you have not been, it is an amazing, healing experience!!Red-tailed Hawk Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17445356682812889441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11006073485032563182012-04-08T18:54:48.029-07:002012-04-08T18:54:48.029-07:00Thank you AnneMarie,
Funny going back and reading ...Thank you AnneMarie,<br />Funny going back and reading this. . . I have new love but it doesn't touch my grief. Today, Easter Sunday - all of my family here but my husbands absence was so huge I can barely type without sobbing. It still shocks my heart - to look around our home and not see him, his beautiful smile and hear his voice.<br />No matter what love comes my way - his absence changes the air I breathe.<br />Today - it sucked the life out of me, it took away the happiness of being with my children and grandchildren. It took my week of making "Easter" happen - and made it all seem meaningless. <br />His presence made everything greater and his absence takes away so much of the meaning for me because his joy multiplied my own.<br />I am so grateful for our life, our love and the family I have but the loneliness for him (despite being loved) is so large, if I look at it for more than a few seconds it is that wave that you fear will drown you. <br />My grief is unique. Our love was unique. I know we all feel that way. Because it was true. <br />Thank you for saying I was honoring myself. I don't know how else to be. This person is kind and loving and smart and caring. I am grateful and happy to know her and to be gifted with her love. I probably can't even love her back in the same depth. My heart will forever be broken in some way. However, I am honest about that.<br />I have to trust how i feel because it is the only thing that has brought me this far. <br />I appreciate your kind comments.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-17373709578289420572012-04-08T11:48:03.268-07:002012-04-08T11:48:03.268-07:00Thank you Taryn.
Great post to remind us our grie...Thank you Taryn. <br />Great post to remind us our grief is as unique as we are and being true to our own way of healing honors SELF and our beloved partner. I read this quote recently and it fits on so many levels: "Quit trying to fit in when you were born to stick out!" Kudos to anonymous above for honoring herself and her new relationship, and to all who understand and live the grief path you know is right for you. And Taryn, I so much enjoy reading about your life of healing, you are an inspiration of uniqueness!Red-tailed Hawk Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17445356682812889441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-54552206200123225052012-04-07T07:12:03.847-07:002012-04-07T07:12:03.847-07:00Wow!
Well - Here is unique.
I was happily married ...Wow!<br />Well - Here is unique.<br />I was happily married for over 30 years to an incredible man. We had a family, we were madly truly in love.<br />He died - too soon, we were not going to be able to live our forever and ever. As planned. As we always wanted.<br /><br />Now - I am falling in love with a woman. Yes, a woman.<br />No - I am not a closeted lesbian! No< I was not closeted my whole life married to a man and "wishing" for anything else. We were monogamous and happily so. <br /><br />I have always known i was bisexual. Something my husband always knew about. <br /><br />Now - my greatest love is gone. No one will ever understand what that really means to me. Perhaps except the people here.<br /><br />Do I know if this relationship blossoms what people will say and what they will think? You bet I do.<br /><br />They will try to take my beautiful relationship and marriage and say it was a sham. Or that is what I thought. Till I expressed to one of my close friends this fear and she said something powerfully true :<br />"anyone who knew the two of you, who were in your presence together, who watched you laugh and love and cherish each other - would never say that. Anyone who would doesn't know a damn thing about you and so they don't matter at all!"<br /><br />Our relationship was unique.<br />Our love was unique.<br />I am as well.<br />Thank you so much for the reminder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com