tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post479344947361104574..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-72106272998253017542010-08-30T13:30:45.255-07:002010-08-30T13:30:45.255-07:00This really hit home for me. I have a chronic con...This really hit home for me. I have a chronic condition and the first time I went to the hospital and had to change my emergency contact information it hurt so bad. Every once in awhile I'll still get a phone call - probably sales people and when I say he is deceased, they can't get off the phone fast enough. It happened again over the weekend. A friend of ours still leaves messages on my answering machine when he needs to talk to Jeff. It's weird, but seems to help him so I don't stop it.<br /><br />This "one year" mark is tough - all the firsts are nearly finished, though.<br /><br />LyneeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-65320200578691643302010-08-28T20:59:30.839-07:002010-08-28T20:59:30.839-07:00So happy to have found your blog. I tried to star...So happy to have found your blog. I tried to start my own blog but gave up after a year. I was never consistent. I, too, remember the "forms" and crossing off my husband's name, writing deceased and checking the "W" box. Saying the word, "widow" was harder than saying the word, "forty" when I had reached that age. It's been 11 years for me but I can't get closure because of legal issues with my husband's adult son from his first marriage. Even after 11 years, I question whose name is going to go in the "emergency" contact section for me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17247148899120543460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-10075923954795446432010-08-28T00:08:06.155-07:002010-08-28T00:08:06.155-07:00My heart breaks for all of us.
dMy heart breaks for all of us. <br />dwidowsquaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08590978904437843995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-5811634914701723322010-08-27T15:28:14.704-07:002010-08-27T15:28:14.704-07:00Wow, you said it all and I too feel the same pain ...Wow, you said it all and I too feel the same pain and feelings. I am coming up to the 1st year, and am still deal with these constant reminders whether it be forms or places, a certain car etc. It hurts so bad to make that change. It's funny when family & friends are aware that an anniversary or holiday may be a trigger but they have no idea on how so much of our daily lives are constant triggers of pain, from the moment we wake up in the morning to the time when we go to bed - thanks for sharing it helps to know your not alone in this difficult journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-7628782813619149002010-08-27T10:54:13.964-07:002010-08-27T10:54:13.964-07:00There. Are. No. Words.There. Are. No. Words.Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-82716803391273663672010-08-27T09:33:00.290-07:002010-08-27T09:33:00.290-07:00Wow - thats all I can say, very moving and I total...Wow - thats all I can say, very moving and I totally have those same feelings. I hate the "emergency" forms. Will it ever make sense. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-66565900836804761982010-08-27T07:13:35.760-07:002010-08-27T07:13:35.760-07:00I have spent a long time wondering where my husban...I have spent a long time wondering where my husband went as I know he is not GONE. I thought I was the only one with this thought. And I wonder when he left did he want to communicate anything to me, was he afraid, is he ok.<br />May all our husband's souls be with God and at peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-33647820573354043162010-08-27T06:32:41.306-07:002010-08-27T06:32:41.306-07:00As I approach the 6 month mark, you've capture...As I approach the 6 month mark, you've captured my feelings exactly. Thank you so very much for looking back and helping those of us who are early on this painful journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-3566139735025732912010-08-27T06:09:21.613-07:002010-08-27T06:09:21.613-07:00I remember when Ifirst had to cross my husband nam...I remember when Ifirst had to cross my husband name of the list. It was my first doctor's appointment. My whole self screamed, but he is the one I want to be my emergency contact- he knows me the best. It has been a year of doing this, at all my doctor's and my daughter's doctors too! It still makes me cringe, but it is a little easier every time. This summer one of those times sent me off the edge and I started to miss him all over again! I think we will always have moments like that so I really feel the next person we chose as a partner will have to get that this is not something you get over, but something you live with. They will have to understand we can still love them, but it will be different, becuase we are different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com