tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post5102422938882303629..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : relationships with riskMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-46233447240563764682012-09-18T09:57:52.624-07:002012-09-18T09:57:52.624-07:00Grief and loss impact our trust and our ability to...Grief and loss impact our trust and our ability to move forward in new relationships, as well as how others react to the newly-widowed. Friends are lifesavers. Much of this is the theme of both my memoirs, Again in a Heartbeat and its sequel Morning at Wellington Square.<br /><br />I have been widowed for 18 years and it truly is a journey. I wrote about it in the quest to heal and offer my story to others going through the same thing in their lives, particulary the journey as a single middle-aged woman. They key is connecting with your passion in life and finding renewal.<br /><br />Susan G. Weidenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15556116941678051541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-54829693830899247332012-09-14T06:27:36.199-07:002012-09-14T06:27:36.199-07:00I too lost some friends since my husband died. Som...I too lost some friends since my husband died. Some I was very shocked to realize had quit calling, others I kind of knew were fair weather friends and so not so shocking. I have read where in five years out we won't have any of the same friends as we are very different people now. We now need different things from friends. I have a few special friends I would like to hang on to so I make special effort to be a friend to them, to keep calling, to try to not always be the needy one and keep the relationships more even. Hope it helps!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-86172574305250117762012-09-13T12:32:09.006-07:002012-09-13T12:32:09.006-07:00Our family and friends are gifts, not a given. And...Our family and friends are gifts, not a given. And let us be there for others when we can how we can.Kimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-26744916249640238192012-09-13T11:03:22.054-07:002012-09-13T11:03:22.054-07:00Diane,
Thanks for your comment. It's hard whe...Diane,<br /><br />Thanks for your comment. It's hard when others don't understand the path that you walked on and surely when they said that, they meant it. But when grief starts, sometimes life stops - but only for us. The rest of the world keeps going and sometimes it just sucks.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05819788859577010155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-48215418607029126542012-09-13T07:12:38.903-07:002012-09-13T07:12:38.903-07:00Hi Vee - this is SO TRUE. At my son's memoria...Hi Vee - this is SO TRUE. At my son's memorial service only 6 months ago, I remember my pastor saying "Grief is the price we pay for love - the more we love the more we grieve". I was pretty numb the day I heard those words - but now that the numbness has worn off and I feel my grief full force, I understand what these words mean. I am truly sad about some of my friends who there that sad day who said they would be there for me- and they have just disappeared into their own lives. I do understand - they have moved on. But I am still stuck on that day - and only a choice few have stayed back with me.DianeTaylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05302878458733208960noreply@blogger.com