tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post6309028397490119139..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Love is Not ....Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-25685360249497859032010-08-26T17:55:58.231-07:002010-08-26T17:55:58.231-07:00Reading this was like looking at my brain on pape...Reading this was like looking at my brain on paper....with my husband we just fell in love, head over heals within moments of meeting and got married 5 years later....now I have a toddler and I met someone but as you said it I don't know if I want it to work or not....lonliness says yes...grief says you're not my husband you're not my sons father and that is so hard to figure out...I know that nobody can be my husband but I feel lost without him....navigating my life after the plans got ripped apart is not what I imagined in my 20'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-80744804418287018152010-08-25T22:20:40.458-07:002010-08-25T22:20:40.458-07:00This post was 'bang on' for me - I could h...This post was 'bang on' for me - I could have written it myself. <br />Thank you for your honesty. It is always nice to know that 'you are not the only one'.<br />dortheawidowsquaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08590978904437843995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-70489019642207580032010-08-25T15:28:27.745-07:002010-08-25T15:28:27.745-07:00Thank you for the post. I could never imagine ano...Thank you for the post. I could never imagine another man in my life. My husband was everything to me and no other man could ever fill his shoes. I am satisfied and was blessed to have the one great love of my life. I have often wondered how, why, others do remarry if there first husband was so special in their life. Thank you for the prospective and honesty it gives me a much better understanding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-70514598616242710632010-08-25T13:59:06.948-07:002010-08-25T13:59:06.948-07:00Were it not for love, I don't think I would be...Were it not for love, I don't think I would be in the same place right now in terms of how I feel about having been widowed. I wouldn't be as content and my definition of happiness would be different.<br /><br />I know that we are supposed to say "love doesn't fix grief or make it go away" because that's the "party line" of remarried widows, but I feel hypocritical about it because love really did make a difference. Meeting my second husband, falling in love, remarrying helped me. It was just what I needed.<br /><br />And I always knew I could fall in love again. There was never a question. I knew too that my late husband wanted that for me - perhaps that made it easier.<br /><br />Falling in love - if that's a goal out there for anyone - is not any different really from the first time. The learning curve and expectations might have changed because we are older and wiser? but the process is the same. Angst, I think, comes from the unknown of it and probably how willing a person is to let go of the "might/should have beens". I held onto nothing and I never think that life should be different than what it is.anniehttp://anniegirl1138.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-29349874484253147852010-08-25T04:06:16.211-07:002010-08-25T04:06:16.211-07:00Thanks for the honest post. Although I am not in a...Thanks for the honest post. Although I am not in a relationship yet, it is good to know what to expect when I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-87445533980446532642010-08-25T04:03:31.730-07:002010-08-25T04:03:31.730-07:00Thank you for posting this! I wonder all the time ...Thank you for posting this! I wonder all the time how I will ever fall in love with someone else and love them in a way that I loved Dan. I know I never can love someone that way but to just be in love sounds bizarre to me! I have loved Dan for so long that is just doesn't seem fair to love someone else. I always wonder what he would do??? Would he love someone or would he want to be alone???Missing Gabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11092014669579203913noreply@blogger.com