tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post6311557778639093109..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Sick of It Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-34210869206603193682014-04-02T16:22:19.788-07:002014-04-02T16:22:19.788-07:00Linda be sure that you introduce yourself in San D...Linda be sure that you introduce yourself in San Diego , I look forward to meeting you too!!! Its awesome when we get to see all the people we have been typing to ... in person!!! Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-10339782428153494352014-04-02T16:21:21.341-07:002014-04-02T16:21:21.341-07:00THanks Anon!!! I will definitely need all the help...THanks Anon!!! I will definitely need all the help I can get on the book front, so Ill let ya know, and thanks so much for your support. do the next thing is a great motto.......Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-2964074709269603622014-04-02T16:19:53.965-07:002014-04-02T16:19:53.965-07:00THanks Maureen. I will for sure let you all know w...THanks Maureen. I will for sure let you all know when the book is FINALLY done and available. I will be shouting it from the rooftops at that point lol. Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-51315222648787078002014-04-02T16:18:26.565-07:002014-04-02T16:18:26.565-07:00Thank you Anon, good advice. Just to be clear, non...Thank you Anon, good advice. Just to be clear, none of the directing gigs Im doing are volenteer. They are paying gigs and the pay is pretty good/not bad, its just that I live in the NYC area and even living 30min outside the city WITH a roommate, it still an expensive place to survive. But its where I need to be, for many reasons. As far as reaching out, I do that already. Ill just keep plugging along. Things HAVE to improve. All I know is Im working my butt off and sometimes its very ffrustrating. Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-39439539124867443442014-04-02T16:15:29.658-07:002014-04-02T16:15:29.658-07:00Thank you. I will do that on Friday, which is my n...Thank you. I will do that on Friday, which is my next day off when I have time. :)Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-43834911986708579462014-03-30T15:45:19.183-07:002014-03-30T15:45:19.183-07:00This is really excellent advice. Making a living ...This is really excellent advice. Making a living in the creative arts is just so tough. I did my best to hang in there for several years, but after the writing was on the wall that I wasn't going to be the next Meryl Streep, I ended up taking out loans and going back to grad school to get a degree in technical writing. I now have a very good job and can finally build up my 401K, etc. It was a terribly hard time for me, but I survived it, and now I'm so grateful to be financially viable. If I can do it, anyone can. Kelley, I also wish you the best. I love reading your Friday posts, and I will definitely purchase your book!<br /><br />Maureen (widowed 27 months)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-24710824117915263052014-03-29T09:16:52.612-07:002014-03-29T09:16:52.612-07:00I'm so excited to meet you at the West Widows ...I'm so excited to meet you at the West Widows Camp. I'm coming with 3 of the "Merry Widows" from Yuma. We will buy your book whenever it's release. Hang in there Kelley!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14116821084463106558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-71774830693285609632014-03-28T15:26:01.044-07:002014-03-28T15:26:01.044-07:00I hear ya, "tired of being tired". I ope...I hear ya, "tired of being tired". I open my eyes every morn and it hits me again, and I dread the day, and its been 4 years of this same shit. Just trying to stay afloat, so tired of it all some days I would rather sink. Used to be able to help my 20 something kids when they had money issues, now I'm afraid they will have to help me. Pathetic. <br /><br />If you do a fund raising campaign for your book, I will definitely contribute, somehow. Just do it. "Do the next thing" is my daily mantra, along with "whine with wine". At least your testing showed nothing major, keep hydrating. And yes, hospitals will reduced that bill. Take care, we need you to keep us laughing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-54528914140189720902014-03-28T13:44:09.314-07:002014-03-28T13:44:09.314-07:00Thank you for your honesty! Scary, but I'm hea...Thank you for your honesty! Scary, but I'm hearing "I thought I'd be in a different place financially at this age"! from a lot of people. I am 50 and my using the generation before as a yardstick just does not work! I totally get the paradoxes of "Too poor for food- but still fat"! and "Too f**king busy to think but still poor"! First, be sure you are always asking for fair compensation for any work you do. (I did too much volunteer work and favors.) Second, think outside the creative areas you may be pursuing (temp jobs, home-health care) Third, ironically, exercise. I did that last year and got an energy boost and became clear headed. The hospital bill can be reduced then paid a little at a time. If you have ANYONE there whom you can beg to be hands on and get you through, DO IT! Do a coupons-for-services exchange or similar. You need a break in the cycle you are trapped in. I wish the wonderful community I have found on this blog could be my real life friends. If you have access to people like these, REACH OUT! Be specific about your needs, plan ahead. I wish you the best!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-68831901484028032412014-03-28T10:58:22.945-07:002014-03-28T10:58:22.945-07:00That is who I am using Kate - Amazon. Thanks. But ...That is who I am using Kate - Amazon. Thanks. But its still costly between printing, pictures for the book, any shipping I have to do, book-release party, etc etc etc. And I have no benefits of any kind coming to me, ever. I dont qualify for anything because we didnt have kids yet, I "make too much money" according to the govnt, which is a joke since I can barely get by on what I make and thats WITH a roommate, and we had no savings or life insurance or any of that. Who knew he would drop dead randomly at 46? Not us. Im just extremely frustrated and really sick of living this way. Its completely unfair. I know you get it, and thanks:)Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-62459254844513387232014-03-28T10:51:22.846-07:002014-03-28T10:51:22.846-07:00Kelly...I'm sorry you have the financial stres...Kelly...I'm sorry you have the financial stress on top of everything else. I also wish I could give you some advice that does not sound cliche but all I know is to tell you to hang on because at some point things must improve for you. Kate is right...hospitals write off bills for people who cannot pay so call one of their financial counselors right away to see how they can help you.Kathie Scottnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-13993599180831273992014-03-28T09:43:56.175-07:002014-03-28T09:43:56.175-07:00Kelley, I understand how you are feeling. It Took...Kelley, I understand how you are feeling. It Took me over 2 years to get my survivor's benefits approved through the VA and everyday was a stress fest. One thing I learned from it though is, hospitals have the ability to write off or write down your bill if you call and ask. It's worth a try. <br />As for self-publishing, maybe Amazon is an option. I don't personally know much about the process, but they are supposed to be good for people trying to get pPublished. <br />Hang in there!<br />Kate<br />Katenoreply@blogger.com