tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post6729697774188367232..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Movie Ratings for Widow/ersMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-86659041477678065162012-10-10T07:27:23.685-07:002012-10-10T07:27:23.685-07:00Has anyone seen any movies about widows that were ...Has anyone seen any movies about widows that were just extremely unrealistic? Like the way the widow is portrayed? <br /><br />Also some older movies, Dragonfly, his wife dies in a bus accident at the very beginning and the rest of the movie is about the kids at his hospital trying to convince him that she is still there waiting for him. Also Always is a tear jerker, he dies in a plane crash at the beginning and keeps seeing his wife and how she is comping with the death. psycokitty333https://www.blogger.com/profile/02560792215373471363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-76610226683865337412012-05-14T04:10:12.566-07:002012-05-14T04:10:12.566-07:00My 8 year old daughter and I watched 'The Pare...My 8 year old daughter and I watched 'The Parent Trap' on Netflix recently. An old movie (and a cheesy one) but I thought she might enjoy it as it featured two girls (played by one actress of course) not much older than her. A little light relief might be a nice mini-escape I thought as we are grieving the loss of my husband who died in January. Well let me tell you I got such a shock in one scene when Lindsay Lohan's character says the following: "a Dad is an irreplaceable person in a girls' life. I mean think about it, there's a whole day, devoted to celebrating fathers, right? Just imagine, someone's life without a father. Never buying a Father's Day card, never getting their father a birthday present, never sitting on their father's lap, never being able to say, 'Hi, Dad', 'What's up, Dad?,, 'Bye, Dad' and it went on and on.<br /><br />Do NOT let children who've lost their father watch The Parent Trap!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483814947273054605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-85420206542882950232012-02-28T09:12:23.909-08:002012-02-28T09:12:23.909-08:00I absolutely agree with this and have said the sam...I absolutely agree with this and have said the same thing several times. PLEASE actually put out this list. We NEED it!! I was blindsided by the decendants (with my grandmother no less). <br /><br />My additions: Tangled - 2 Reason: at the end Charming dies, Rapunzel's tears bring him back - I burst into tears and left the theatre blaming Disney for torturing children with false hope. <br />Inception - 5 Reason: I was the idiot who didn't know what this was about and saw it 2 days after my husband committed suicide (as a way to fill time the day before the viewing). It was the most awful experience ever.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03288189344566114761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-23703141464108931832012-02-07T15:38:55.407-08:002012-02-07T15:38:55.407-08:00Chris...you are brilliant. Saw we bought a zoo, kn...Chris...you are brilliant. Saw we bought a zoo, knowing it would be emotional. I sobbed like the can't breath, can't move, can't think, can't think of anything else for 30 minutes after the movie was over. Two people came up to my friends and asked if I was OK! <br /><br />I must admit though, after not letting go like that for a long while, I was relieved, in an odd way, to find the grief still there. Sometimes it feels like I was too busy to have time to do all the grieving I needed to in the beginning.<br /><br />So I'd give We Bought a Zoo a 4, not a five cause, crying, even missing someone as deeply as many of us miss our significant others is really a beautiful thing and in a way honors who they were in our lives.<br /><br />Miss you all! KimKim Hamerhttp://www.excatlywhattheyneed.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-23452744865947680082012-02-07T04:57:04.874-08:002012-02-07T04:57:04.874-08:00'Inception' I saw it 4 months out and crie...'Inception' I saw it 4 months out and cried throughout the whole movie in the theatre. Leo Dicaprio keeps trying to dream to see his wife that died again and again. It was torture to watch..Ilonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17582000890250954084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11943510715310577862012-02-06T23:06:17.875-08:002012-02-06T23:06:17.875-08:00The Descendants! I just saw George Clooney on the ...The Descendants! I just saw George Clooney on the poster and had heard that he was nominated for an Oscar for it, so...popcorn in hand in I went! BIG MISTAKE!! The scene where he says goodbye to her had me almost wailing....so similar to me saying goodbye to my love....this film should have a warning on it so we are warned!Jenninoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-27126381178369546932012-02-06T22:28:43.441-08:002012-02-06T22:28:43.441-08:00Meet Joe Black - Rated 3 - Do not watch if your sp...Meet Joe Black - Rated 3 - Do not watch if your spouse was hit by a vehicle. Do not watch if your spouse died of a heart attack. SPOILER - Story of the reaper (so-to-speak and played by Brad Pitt) visiting Anthony Hopkins to tell him he is there to take him home. But he decides he wants to experience what life is actually all about before returning home with Anthony Hopkins and eventually falls for Anthony Hopkins daughter. I thought it was a great movie. But I cried for two days afterwards the first time I saw it because it reminded me of my wonderful mother who had recently passed away. It has become a mainstay in my movie library for its bits of humor, love, and of course the reality of death, which after all is something we will all have to experience at some point in our lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-89408097942297615402012-02-06T19:34:47.345-08:002012-02-06T19:34:47.345-08:00Love this idea! Especially when you have little on...Love this idea! Especially when you have little ones and you want to escape with a good movie. <br />Disney is so horrible at this. All movies are of orphaned children or single parents<br />But it is not so subtle. We watched 15 min of Santa Paws - how could this be bad you ask? Santa and puppies?? Well in the first 15 minutes it shows the orphaned girls along about how they lost their families and then how they live in an orphanage with a mean mean lady that doesn't treat ten rut and tells at them and takes their toys away. Then it shows he mean lady takin the new little girls doll (which her parents gave her before they died) and she is putting it on a conveyer belt hat is moving towards an incinerator. How horrible is that??? My daughters asked to ten Te movie off ad of course I was already about to. All I could honk about wa my husbands ashes and how I would have to explain to my girls at some point that he was cremated. My daughters are 2 and 5. My dad died when I was 10 and I remember seeing a scene in a movie where a person was going to be cremated and it really made me have a hard time just replaying that scene. How could a Disney Christmas movie allow for such a traumatic scene? Then after that Santa falls, gets robbed and gets amnesia. All in 15 -20 min of the start. Don't see it with your kids. <br />Thank you so much Chris for his list! <br />Another one is Tinker Bell and the Great Fairy Rescue. I am a fan of the first 2 Tinker Bell movies - very sweet and perfect escape movie with young kids. The 3 Ed though caught me off guard completely because the girl said the word father about 30 times nonstop. Of course I put it on at a time I wanted us to escape and not miss him and here is a little girl callin for her dad. The mother is never shown - assume death or divorce. We watched this 4 months after my husband died so I cringed at anything that said papa or father or dad. Now almost 2 years later we can enjoy the movie and it is ok. It all takes time to heal.Maustryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885847245095127386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-63918190852642855822012-01-29T17:09:56.507-08:002012-01-29T17:09:56.507-08:00I had no idea when I went to see We Bought A Zoo t...I had no idea when I went to see We Bought A Zoo today that it revolved around a widower with children and getting on with his life. I don't mind movies about it but not in the movie theatre. I thought it was going to be a 'fun' movie to watch with my children. I wouldn't recommend. Another movie I would not recommend is Angel Dog. It starts off in a morge unzipping and showing the man a body of his wife. Then the man walking in the bedroom the first time and looking at where the wife slept (brings back painful memories). Then it goes to the funeral of his wife and two children. I couldn't watch the rest...Yikes!<br />I def don't mind watching sad movies at home alone and I think crying is good but in the movies it's no good (for me at least).Jill Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-38405550609332739172012-01-22T13:18:58.080-08:002012-01-22T13:18:58.080-08:00Tamara,
I just saw this movie last night. Enjoyed...Tamara,<br />I just saw this movie last night. Enjoyed it, but it was hard to watch at times. Especially the closet cleaning scene... especially since I know that day is coming for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-13408416259670317072012-01-19T22:39:01.220-08:002012-01-19T22:39:01.220-08:00The Notebook-5. The husband grieves the loss of h...The Notebook-5. The husband grieves the loss of his wife, all over again, every day because she has Alzheimer's. Every day he spends hours telling her their love story only to have one flicker of recollection before she is gone again. Nicholas Sparks has some cruel vision of a lovestory. I saw this 6 months after my one grandfather died (with my grandma for 77 years), while my other grandfather was in a home and dementia had caused him to forget his wife had died decades before-and had to learn about it all over again, ever single day! I have enough reality in my reality. I want a movie to take me far away from my life, and give me a satisfied ending. It doesn't have to be happy, just not one that will rip my heart from my chest and leave me curled up in the fetal position, bawling my eyes out. <br /><br />SUCK IT NICHOLAS SPARKS!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-62245887968278322612012-01-19T05:17:02.322-08:002012-01-19T05:17:02.322-08:00I wanted to see The Decendents when I thought it w...I wanted to see The Decendents when I thought it was about a man who didn't realize his wife was cheating. Having read the above I had already decided that I won't be able to see that one. Now I can't even see the trailer on TV without tearing up! LOL!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-25478780820118624372012-01-17T06:10:12.135-08:002012-01-17T06:10:12.135-08:00I knew the basic premise of We Bought a Zoo but di...I knew the basic premise of We Bought a Zoo but didn't realize how much of the movie would be about the loss of his wife. My children and I went on Christmas Eve....already a difficult time for us. I have a 16 yr old & 13 yr old sons and an 8 year old girl. As difficult as the movie was at times, there were parts of his grieving that were spot on - his wife being the best friend that he wanted to talk to about his grief (I'm sure many of us can relate to that feeling), the memories, the craziness of the mornings getting out of the house, etc. But, the most realistic scenes and difficult for all of us, were the interactions between the dad and oldest son - it was as though my relationship with my 16 year old was up on the screen for all to see. As a matter of fact, when we were leaving the theater, my 13 year old said "That was our family....minus the level headed middle child."<br /><br />Another difficult one for me was Terms of Endearment - my mother passed away when I was 2 and I recall finally recognizing what my father and older siblings had gone through during her illness/passing. I was a clueless 2 year old.<br /><br />Great conversation!Barbarahttp://runningstrongforhope.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-27626343642487119812012-01-16T13:41:09.893-08:002012-01-16T13:41:09.893-08:00Thank you. I would find this extremely helpful.Thank you. I would find this extremely helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-37295628761586316102012-01-16T12:12:28.608-08:002012-01-16T12:12:28.608-08:00“The Iron Lady” (2012) Rating: 4, Reason: It'...“The Iron Lady” (2012) Rating: 4, Reason: It's about Margaret Thatcher's life, true, but it is told from her perspective in the later years as she is struggling to work through her grief over her husband's death. She has hallucinations of conversations with her husband, has to clean out his closet and other tear jerking moment.Tamaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-2511529378291875142012-01-15T08:13:01.533-08:002012-01-15T08:13:01.533-08:00I just went to a movie by myself for the first tim...I just went to a movie by myself for the first time. Strangely enough, I was trying to decide if I should see The Descendants or Young Adult. I chose Young Adult, a strange movie but, not about death. After reading all the comments I am glad I didn't go see the The Descendants alone! <br />I have to say, though, I really enjoyed going alone. It was not crowded and I too was not the only "single" person in the movie theater. I am definitely going to make this a hobby of mine. It was ok to be somewhere by myself, enjoying something I love to do, with the benefit of getting to see what I wanted to see! It was a peaceful two hour escape that only cost $8.50.<br />I will be sure to check the list before I go. Great idea, Chris.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11943232884583866782012-01-14T09:00:25.689-08:002012-01-14T09:00:25.689-08:00TOTALLY agree. My daughter and I were watching th...TOTALLY agree. My daughter and I were watching the movie at home a couple of weeks ago. Didn't know much about it, except they meet every year on one day. We both beyond shocked, stunned, speechless and that creakingly horrific bus scene. And then pissed. Really, really pissed.<br />And as I'm writing this I can feel my blood pressure rising and my stomach starting to hurt.<br />HATED IT!!!!!!!! And I think I may hate the people who made it.Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-9886729937174300452012-01-14T08:08:33.958-08:002012-01-14T08:08:33.958-08:00Interesing comments.
Number one, I used to be in a...Interesing comments.<br />Number one, I used to be in a book club but since my husban's death I have not been able to focus to read a book. besides, there is so much more to do at home now who has the time? So reading a book before seeing a movie is out.<br />Number two, I do go to the movies alone sometimes.<br />It was one of the baby steps I had to take to get on with my life. The first time I tried it, I left, popcorn in hand and said to myself "who are your kidding" and cried all the way home. <br />I just do not like getting blindsided.<br />I saw DECENDENTS and thought it was going to be more of a story about a dad raising his girls, not the hospital scenes that were drawn out and then spreading her ashes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-27028599204270914122012-01-13T21:21:17.697-08:002012-01-13T21:21:17.697-08:00Thanks Janine!
Actually, I've always found mo...Thanks Janine! <br />Actually, I've always found movies to be a little anti-social anyway as far as outings with friends go. (You sit in the dark and don't talk!) So, yeah. I think I'll try it if the movie is still playing.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04512708135377541004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-35302629774222585282012-01-13T19:17:31.526-08:002012-01-13T19:17:31.526-08:00Valerie, I do, and always have, gone to movies al...Valerie, I do, and always have, gone to movies alone if I can't find someone who wants to go. Started that as a teen and have absolutely no problem with it. Movies are usually an escape, no matter who's there ... or not. <br />As an aside, I went to see "We Bought a Zoo" and after the initial shock of him being a widower (didn't know that going in), I loved the movie. Parts of it were difficult and I cried through parts I have lived through, but it wasn't nearly as devastating as The Descendants. <br />Every movie is going to speak to us in different ways. I just wish I'd get more of a "heads up" sometimes. :)<br />So bottom line: yes, feel free to go see a movie alone. I am rarely the only single attendee in a theatre. And many times, it's rather nice to have my thoughts to myself afterwards. <br />I hope you try it ... and enjoy it. :)Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-87801278704764131122012-01-13T19:11:02.249-08:002012-01-13T19:11:02.249-08:00One Day was rough. I give it a 3.5. I knew what wa...One Day was rough. I give it a 3.5. I knew what was coming and I still had a tough time with the scene of him in bed after she died. Wrenching, but the majority of the movie is PRE death, so not as bad. <br /><br />But I'm a little like some of the other commenters. When I'm at home, and when I have a warning ahead of time, I'm usually fine. It's cathartic. I like to have the warning, though. <br /><br />There was one called The Boys are Back. BEWARE. I give it a 5. I cried for most of it. Husband loses wife (she's sick) and he and his sons try to make a go of it. Very heartbreaking. <br /><br />Valerie - I've yet to go to a movie alone, either, but I'm planning on trying it. I'm going to go when it's not crowded, I think. <br /><br />Jill, I'm the same! Chris himself warned me about Contagion and I went right out and saw it. <br /><br />Right after Dave died, I instantly craved movies about widowhood. I guess they "fit" and movies about happy couples were too hard. Way too painful. I was sort of obsessed there for a while. <br />Saw PS I Love You, and several others I can't remember in quick succession in the month after he died and didn't cry at all while watching. <br />Now, I cry at 7 months. Weird.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-85463128972635933632012-01-13T16:00:44.384-08:002012-01-13T16:00:44.384-08:00Super 8 - Great Movie, but... 3 This is mostly a W...Super 8 - Great Movie, but... 3 This is mostly a WW for those of you with kids who lost a parent. (wife/mom died - she does not appear in the movie itself, but is referenced strongly, visiting grave scene, missing mom, childhood videos of mom, dad works all the time to escape, etc...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-69100259831660801742012-01-13T14:13:41.151-08:002012-01-13T14:13:41.151-08:00One Day.
So not a good idea to watch this when ...One Day. <br /><br />So not a good idea to watch this when your husband was hit by a truck riding his bike. :(<br />Had no idea and cried for a day after that movie.tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10262384448836310294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-23239970114924097572012-01-13T13:08:30.936-08:002012-01-13T13:08:30.936-08:00Watching a movie at home alone and watching a move...Watching a movie at home alone and watching a move in the theater with friends are two completely different experiences when it comes to death/dying scenes.<br />I find them somewhat cathartic at home alone, but awkward for everybody when you're watching with friends.<br /><br />I would definitely want to know the premise of any movie before watching it - to avoid the blindside when out with friends. At the very least I'd like to be prepared for the tears!<br />But I have no problem watching those movies at home alone.<br /><br />On a different but similar note - does anybody go to the theater alone? I'm considering going to watch a movie alone this weekend. (It's at an Art/International theater in town and I don't know if my friends would be into going to see it.) Not sure how sad or pathetic that will make me feel? Or maybe it will be totally OK?Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04512708135377541004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-62420150602328430822012-01-13T12:56:09.631-08:002012-01-13T12:56:09.631-08:00I noticed this very early in widowhood - the fact ...I noticed this very early in widowhood - the fact that so much tv/movie is built around plots that involve loss/death. <br /><br />For my husband (also widowed) and I, it's becoming something of a running (and very morbid) joke. Whenever a character in a film seems a bit off, one of us will say "Bet he/she is widowed." And sure enough not too much more narrative goes by without the big widow reveal.<br /><br />I wonder if it doesn't stem from the fact that we try to deal with the big traumas in life through story? Books, tv, movies and even song tend to tip towards events that rip our souls away and force us to start over again and work our way back from pain and sadness.<br /><br />We just watched a film this last wknd that ended up being filled with death. Short of giving up on movies and tv, I don't know how to completely avoid it. It gets easier - like everything else - as you get farther out.anniehttp://anniegirl1138.comnoreply@blogger.com