tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post729415359724996156..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Widows Loving AgainMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-69489378230308432672012-05-12T18:30:08.023-07:002012-05-12T18:30:08.023-07:00When Ron died, he was (technically) my boyfriend; ...When Ron died, he was (technically) my boyfriend; however, we knew we were headed for marriage and talked about it all the time. It wasn't until months after he died that I realized I could legitimately call him my fiance. In the meantime I happened to be at a dentist appointment. I was still so distraught I couldn't NOT talk about it, and told my dentist that "my boyfriend died." He said (without skipping a beat and with no "I'm sorry"): "Well, you just go out and get yourself another one." So SO minimizing. I wasn't "in it" to get a relationship or marriage out of him. I was in LOVE, thank you very much. And the assumption that new relationship = better, no longer sad, happiness, etc....so dangerous.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882630042530182501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-25825151958669977112009-04-03T06:31:00.000-07:002009-04-03T06:31:00.000-07:00Hi Mie!This is a good post. This was the topic of...Hi Mie!<BR/>This is a good post. This was the topic of conversation last night with my widow friends (we call it our Circle). We thought it was interesting that a couple of us who are now over the one year mark have a less physical reaction at the thought of dating (at first, the thought of dating again made us want to throw up!). We can see the difference in our thoughts now and those of our other friends who are still rather "fresh" in this Circle. <BR/>And it's nice to see .... because it means that we're not stuck in our grief, but are continuing to inch forward bit by bit.<BR/>JanineJaninehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.com