tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post7460427192491160017..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Perspective and PurposeMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-8187967629694794262011-07-01T21:02:44.437-07:002011-07-01T21:02:44.437-07:00I for one have found each and every one of the dai...I for one have found each and every one of the daily bloggers providing me with a common perspective. I on some level have related to all of them at one time or another. Janine gets me just because she is from Texas and her struggles as a widowed parent to 6 relate to my worries as a widowed parent to 4. The Two Michelles have given me hope because of their seniority in this group that I can slowly find my way. I relate to Taryn because we have both lost dreams in an instant. Kim, well she is obviously in my head some days because she writes so often about issues that weigh me down at that precise moment. Jackie's love for her dear husband and the family they created together shows me how to cling to the good memories so they won't be lost. And I love getting to know Dan and look forward to learning more about Chris. <br /><br />It's not a male or female issue, this widowhood journey. It is a loss issue. We are all in this together, even in our own unique journeys. <br /><br />And I didn't forget Matt, the Thursday blogger you referenced here. He is how I found SSLF and Widow's Voice. He has the same name as my dearly loved husband. He and I joined the widowhood brigade within 49 days of each other, both on Tuesdays. Although he was left with a newborn and my youngest were 1 1/2 yrs and 2 3/4 yrs old at the time of my Matt's death, we both have children who do not know their missing parent except thru what we share with them. He is the first person who I could relate to after sooo long of feeling all alone in this journey. I am thankful to have found him just by chance one day when I was searching the internet for anything, anyone who could understand because until then, I was utterly alone without an understanding person in my life. And thru him, I found all of you. I am so thankful.<br /><br />It's the journey we all travel together that matters.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08800518257626943711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-73368808895572810862011-07-01T20:36:04.482-07:002011-07-01T20:36:04.482-07:00Love it, the more the merrier. Besides, I need all...Love it, the more the merrier. Besides, I need all the help I can get! :)<br />Love you all!Lori from San Diegonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-78863416843498936222011-07-01T18:23:54.906-07:002011-07-01T18:23:54.906-07:00Michelle, much to the surprise of no one, I think ...Michelle, much to the surprise of no one, I think this is great. As a widower, few things have been as completely positive as the way that the largely widow-hood community has completely and without reservation embraced me with open arms and loved me unconditionally. <br /><br />Having been involved in the Feminist Movement, a Pro-Choice activist, a public breastfeeding activist, and a breast cancer husband (and now widower), I honestly expect and would not have been too deeply offended by the kind of sentiments expressed by Anonymous. Honestly, I get it. The presence of men can put a damper on the passions and feelings and opinions of women which have too often and are still sadly suppressed. <br /><br />But I have been so far been quite amazed and grateful to have almost seen none of this in the Widdaverse. To almost everyone, I'm in the same boat, and that belonging, that understanding, feels so good. Of course, my widower bros and I have a special bond, but given the raw numbers, I'm sure glad you all have had it in your hearts to welcome me. And, obviously, your hearts continue to open to both widows and widowers, and I for one think we are all richer for it.<br /><br />XXXJay Cosnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17402435089774564279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-1282638023249780942009-10-08T12:00:48.696-07:002009-10-08T12:00:48.696-07:00I truly appreciate your willingness to have an ope...I truly appreciate your willingness to have an open mind. There is very little help out there for widowers, whose needs I do not profess to know. What I do know is that they hurt in many of the same ways as their female counterparts, and that Widow's Voice was always meant to reach out to anyone who has been widowed. I believe our new blogger will provide a different, and valuable, perspective and am hoping that our readers are touched by his journey. Thanks for taking the time to comment, and thanks for being a part of the WV community. We will continue to strive to provide our WV family with hope and support for the journey ahead.Michele Neff Hernandezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-53064872131102057482009-10-08T10:03:49.753-07:002009-10-08T10:03:49.753-07:00I have to admit I am truely disappointed. One rea...I have to admit I am truely disappointed. One reason I have valued this blog over so many others and other websites is that it has been only widows. I understand that widowhood is universal; but I find some of the male perspective on other sites irrelevant. I knew where I could get that perspective if I wanted and where I could come for a resfreshing woman's only view and a sense of saftey and community in the oneness of being widows. I mean no disrepect to widowers as I know their road is a difficult one as well. I am sure for a man buying your daughters first bra would be as difficult as when I had to help my son pick out his first protective cup for baseball. I will try to keep an open mind; but again I must say I am not looking forward to thursdays as I have in the past. I really don't think you are providing a more rounded view of being a widow, but rather a more rounded view of widowhood; there is a difference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com