tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post7482774743763856774..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Those Who Don't Know Grief Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-74165789393010730182014-12-28T21:43:46.645-08:002014-12-28T21:43:46.645-08:00Thank You Rebecca and Kelley for your writings and...Thank You Rebecca and Kelley for your writings and Anonymous for your comment. I actually read this blog entry yesterday afternoon when I woke up at 1:50 pm. That's almost 2:00 in the afternoon! I had gotten up around 7 am to let the 2 dogs out and feed my cat but then we all went back to sleep! My 2 daughters (ages 21 & 17) are visiting their father's family in another state for a few days so I'm trying to rest after the holidays. I realized what Kelley said about it being exhausting along with grief being exhausting as well, I think we are all double exhausted during this time. Thinking of all of you...Leslienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-65208683770052638992014-12-27T16:46:36.399-08:002014-12-27T16:46:36.399-08:00So well put. It has been almost three years since...So well put. It has been almost three years since my husband died and I ran into an acquaintance the other day whom I had not seen since the wake. A really nice person, but when he asked me how I was and I started to tear up a bit, he hurriedly said "don't cry". So we spoke of other things instead of how I felt or of my late husband. People who have not experienced this type of loss will not understand it until it happens to them. For them, grief is something you feel during the wake and funeral and then it's back to real life, except for those who have been left behind by the deceased, real life is now about navigating unknown waters. Isn't it bizarre that on top of suffering this huge loss we also have to suffer quietly or alone among friends and family? I am grateful for those who do allow me to speak and show my pain. And I'm grateful for this site and the knowledge that we are not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-80288012452067949612014-12-27T06:49:14.447-08:002014-12-27T06:49:14.447-08:00And THAT is why holidays are so hard. That snowglo...And THAT is why holidays are so hard. That snowglobe that we are forced to be stuck inside, with all the relatives and people and families and new homes and babies and life ... and there we are, going through something that not one person in that room could ever comprehend. Nobody mentions Don at my family gatherings either, and it is very lonely and not a good feeling. I still mention him, I bring up stories, but nobody really responds much. My mom and my brother are pretty good, but most others just look at me awkwardly. It sucks. Congrats for getting through it. Its soooo exhausting. Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17289972201201027609noreply@blogger.com