tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post7901767577206178245..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : CollisionMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-4693617620112962642013-04-02T09:59:19.667-07:002013-04-02T09:59:19.667-07:00Seeing myself as worthy of love and valuable has b...Seeing myself as worthy of love and valuable has been hard since Eddie went home two years go (something I struggled with even as a child). Thank you for you are correct "all of me, faults, weaknesses, vulnerabilities and broken bits included, is good and worthy of love"; and I am valulable just as I am.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-42927019002262758062013-03-26T09:36:21.924-07:002013-03-26T09:36:21.924-07:00You wrote " Now, a day is considered a succes...You wrote " Now, a day is considered a success when no one dies, my loved ones are all safe in their beds" I've had that thought everyday for the past 2 years since Sean died.. That is how I measure a day in my life... I say " If you wake up , you've already won...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342306792887369120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-70710401458457048372013-03-25T22:10:53.816-07:002013-03-25T22:10:53.816-07:00Yes, I feel that urge to give a more positive answ...Yes, I feel that urge to give a more positive answer than I honestly feel sometimes too. It's a relief to be with other people who have been through this because I never feel that urge around them. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-35829976418186374202013-03-25T18:16:59.059-07:002013-03-25T18:16:59.059-07:00I would say that I too am more empathtic/compassio...I would say that I too am more empathtic/compassionate and far less judgemental than I was before. I feel more for the human conditioning of suffer than I did before. I might have said in the past, that they should havve done this or that to prevent themselves from having this happen to them. ie. become homeless/ losig their home. keep a better eye on their money to name just a few, but now I see how quickly our lives can change, coming out of no where.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-71862003820047355562013-03-25T14:01:50.103-07:002013-03-25T14:01:50.103-07:00I have always been an apologetic type person too. ...I have always been an apologetic type person too. Now as a widow, since I lost my husband Paul, I feel like apologizing for being sad or not being able to "get over it." For example, if someone asks me how my weekend went and if I don't say fine, but tell them how I really feel, I feel guilty for giving them a negative answer. I get the feeling people feel uncomfortable dealing with grieving persons. I tend to apologize for my behavior as if it is somehow my fault that I feel the way I do. Also, the well-being of my loved ones are constantly on my mind now because I know first hand just how fragile life is and how quickly it can be taken from you.Rosemarynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-46937330913168448482013-03-25T09:59:32.200-07:002013-03-25T09:59:32.200-07:00I too am the child of an alcoholic father and I ha...I too am the child of an alcoholic father and I have never associated it with my constant apologizing but you may be on to something there! But, as a widow I too find myself more concerned about human life than I ever was before.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175077917096988524noreply@blogger.com