tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post825404580507335780..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : New Years CrashMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-2300237266816440252016-01-01T20:25:00.414-08:002016-01-01T20:25:00.414-08:00I'm so sorry you have to face your birthday an...I'm so sorry you have to face your birthday and his death at the beginning of each year. I hope an extra special memory of a time that has perhaps slipped to the recesses will wrap around you and your boys this year.<br /><br />Our Widow's Voice blogs have moved to our website and can now be found at http://www.soaringspirits.org/blog<br /><br />We also have an online community where you can connect with others who share your loss. http://widowedvillage.org/Diannehttp://amyelomawidowsjourney.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-47613118559443318522016-01-01T20:12:05.825-08:002016-01-01T20:12:05.825-08:00I read this on New Years Day- 2016...and know how ...I read this on New Years Day- 2016...and know how you felt. My birthday is tomorrow and my husband died a week after my birthday in 2014. New year, another year older, another year that he didn't get to experience. I have many nice things planed for my birthday, but it is all a trick to keep myself from crashing because once tomorrow is over then my mental countdown of the awful week he died will be with me as I move through it again. The first year was survival and the second year is has been learning to live this new reality. But these holidays and anniversaries can be brutal. Last year on the anniversary of his death, my sons and I wrote down our memories of him and then read them out loud. It was beautiful because we all shared different things and we laughed and remembered together. It was also a way to get two teenagers to talk openly about their dad. I am scared to do this again because we have no new memories- just the same ones from before. I'm afraid this will just make us even sadder. But doing nothing or not having a tradition on the anniversary of his death I think would be worse. <br /><br />Sorry, I went totally somewhere else with this, but your words resonated with me. Thank you<br /><br />Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132877376714213703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-52488176380158415422015-01-07T10:31:08.445-08:002015-01-07T10:31:08.445-08:00Jan.7
Just catching up on reading the widow's ...Jan.7<br />Just catching up on reading the widow's voice. I also chose not to watch any countdowns on New Year's Eve, but I went whole hog and for the entire evening I watched other cable channels that were not showing any live programming. Like you, I had a nice Christmas with family, and came home Monday, Dec. 29, feeling like maybe after 3 years, I was at a turning point. Even with the shunning of any New Year's Eve festivities, I still feel (knock on wood) that maybe the very worst of missing him is getting a little softer. I can only hope that all of us start to feel some softness at the edges of our grief.<br />Thanks for sharing your feelings so eloquently.<br />Carol M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-74092946337746136652015-01-02T08:08:34.705-08:002015-01-02T08:08:34.705-08:00Kelley, as usual, you have voiced the words that...Kelley, as usual, you have voiced the words that I couldn't find to describe how I am feeling. I too will be "okay" in a few days, but meantime the sorrow sucks the life out of me...the "crash" and the reasons for it wipe me out. It is , as you said, a must that we go through it instead of pushing it down, ignoring it...grief must be gotten through only by living it. It is good that we can communicate with others who truly understand. (This comment will be listed as being from "mikeysmom," but you know me as carol johnston on FB. "Mikey" is our son, who died in 2006. My hubby Mike, died in August 2012)mikeysmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059981814874892458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-85534514191203770312015-01-02T07:35:26.483-08:002015-01-02T07:35:26.483-08:00I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you lov...I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you lovelovelove and prayers, from a sisterwidow, DebDeborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195623810400107239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-31010016363544967492015-01-02T07:14:52.576-08:002015-01-02T07:14:52.576-08:00Kelley, my heart and mind are crying with you for ...Kelley, my heart and mind are crying with you for all the same reasons. The love of my life died suddenly 3-1/2 years ago. I survived the fourth Christmas without my husband, but the ache of missing him lives inside me and will forever. KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com