tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post8508478573550236469..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Dodging Bullets on New Year's EveMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-33085443452823950342016-12-14T11:48:35.065-08:002016-12-14T11:48:35.065-08:00Our Widow's Voice blogs have moved to the Soar...Our Widow's Voice blogs have moved to the Soaring Spirits web site. You can read them daily at http://www.soaringspirits.org/blogSoaring Spiritshttp://www.soaringspirits.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-88998274035067739862016-12-14T11:25:04.700-08:002016-12-14T11:25:04.700-08:00Thanks for your post. I was glad to see I'm n...Thanks for your post. I was glad to see I'm not the only widow who dreads New Year's eve. Old married friends usually extend an invitation earliest and that's where I'm a half-couple. Plus it's just a, "Yippee, another year by myself!" I don't mind it, I just don't want to celebrate it. So slightly different twist but you are not alone in your apprehension. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-7370572402812437862016-10-30T19:46:12.107-07:002016-10-30T19:46:12.107-07:00I'm so sorry. Join us in Widowed Village where...I'm so sorry. Join us in Widowed Village where you'll find others who are facing this same issue. Our Widow's Voice blogs have moved to the Soaring Spirits website. See links below:<br />www.widowedvillage.org<br />http://www.soaringspirits.org/blogSoaring Spiritsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-51394507531074956832016-10-29T12:41:30.100-07:002016-10-29T12:41:30.100-07:00i just lost my husband, im dreading xmas and new y...i just lost my husband, im dreading xmas and new years eve, ive been thinking i have to suffer xmas with family, we all will be suffering but they all have someone to suffer with if that makes sense, but im trying to find somewhere i can go to be alone on news years eveAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08086194165907680685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-66563484295939951612013-05-08T21:06:25.286-07:002013-05-08T21:06:25.286-07:00If you do not have children, and friends are coupl...If you do not have children, and friends are couples with kids and grands, and family is on another Coast,and you are a female widow of less than 2 years, and not interested yet in dating, and have horses and dogs, do you: stay home, cry, and hugs your pets, and watch Time Machine like we did for 30 years, stay home and have a party - ask folks come to you, or escape incognito to Las Vegas or Hawaii...or show up in Austrailia - the first place for New Year's and call family from there!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-72269113848327740732012-12-13T12:27:09.490-08:002012-12-13T12:27:09.490-08:00I feel your pain. December 31, 1999 was the date ...I feel your pain. December 31, 1999 was the date of our first kiss. It was just a little peck to ring in the new year. We didn't start dating until June of 2000. Married December 21, 2002. Babies came: September 10, 2004, October 25, 2007 and September 3, 2010. He Died January 9, 2012. Life can be so sad. I just miss him so much.Yvettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-59292692649679673192012-01-01T18:08:56.900-08:002012-01-01T18:08:56.900-08:00My wonderful husband I have been kissing on New Ye...My wonderful husband I have been kissing on New Years since I was 17 died on October 13th. I was actually relieved when my daughter caught the flu so I had something else to focus on. My couple friends all out partying and posting pics on Facebook made me long for the last 25 years. I have never felt more lonely, but am happy to have just found this wonderful blog of people who are in the same boat as me!Valerie L.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-58997358354727743812011-12-31T14:00:28.994-08:002011-12-31T14:00:28.994-08:00Happy new year from the land down under! I surviv...Happy new year from the land down under! I survived new years and have woke up to be rid of the holiday gloominess. I am soooo thankful for that! Cheers to your plan. Tomorrow will be an even better day than today. You will love those puppy kisses and they may even make you laugh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-83265565333580650662011-12-31T12:29:27.779-08:002011-12-31T12:29:27.779-08:00This is my 3rd NYE without Dave. I like the plan ...This is my 3rd NYE without Dave. I like the plan of leaving a bit early. I'm hopeful for the night, but that 12:00 thing...you got it so right. Here's to everyone tonight. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-46625697123498117692011-12-30T19:09:55.038-08:002011-12-30T19:09:55.038-08:00This is my 3rd New Years without my beloved husban...This is my 3rd New Years without my beloved husband. I was never a big fan of New Years celebrations and now even more so, after kissing my love at midnight after 30 years I still find it too painful to be around others that are celebrating. So for me my plan again is renting some videos and going to bed way before midnight so that it's just another Saturday night and not the celebration of a another new year (which is only another painful reminder of another year without my love)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-41590129645334139112011-12-30T17:56:45.815-08:002011-12-30T17:56:45.815-08:00This is my 2nd New Year without Dave.
And yes, las...This is my 2nd New Year without Dave.<br />And yes, last year there was the double gun-shot to the heart.<br />This year I won't be the only single female there, so hopefully it'll be a little less awkward/painful.<br /><br />This year I considered lying to friends and family who asked what my plans are. (I know that if I said, 'Nothing and I'm OK with that' - THEY wouldn't be and would pressure me to go out.) However I decided head out tomorrow evening to a small gathering anyway. There will be a few pre-teen kids there - so it will have a different vibe.<br /><br />Good for you for having a plan. And I'm sure the puppies will be glad to see you home early!<br /><br />And that's a lovely photo. Maggie was beautiful!Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04512708135377541004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-19850394908734733092011-12-30T17:24:59.539-08:002011-12-30T17:24:59.539-08:00This year will be the third New Years without my h...This year will be the third New Years without my husband of 42 years. My husband passed away 10:00 pm New Years Eve. He always celebrated by watching the NY ball drop at midnight and running outside to wish anyone in sight a Happy New Year. I find keeping with his traditions real comfort and sweet memories. May you find your own comfort and peace this new year......Happy New Year!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-69733508640887093832011-12-30T16:55:46.006-08:002011-12-30T16:55:46.006-08:00This is my first without my husband. He passed on ...This is my first without my husband. He passed on Oct 24th 2011. I plan on going to bed before midnight. Not sure if it will work. I don't do much sleeping, I am usually up most of the night. It is comforting to hear others are going through the same thing. Thanks so much for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-48440759882700980092011-12-30T14:48:04.784-08:002011-12-30T14:48:04.784-08:00First time I will be spending new years ever alone...First time I will be spending new years ever alone in 36 years.<br />Last year, i went to the dinner. Had the "oh, o yes" poor you alone face and the hugs too tight, too long, wrong person, not him. Wanting to run and hide.<br />not doing it this year.<br />Spending it alone, with the fire lit and planning the next year by reading his journal, his hope and plans and dreams> I am going to make some new ones too and carry some of his with me.<br />here is to surviving 2011. Didn't think I would make it this far.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-43247909022315471332011-12-30T14:00:18.232-08:002011-12-30T14:00:18.232-08:00Happy New Year, Chris! You just never know who...Happy New Year, Chris! You just never know who'll be a the party you're attending. She may make you stay past midnight...talking. Without a kiss but making new memories. I had to change up my life, hanging out with new people to avoid the double gun shots (ugh, I am much too aware of that feeling). I still hang on to new hope that a new man will come into my life so I can create new New Year's Eve memories, without forgetting the old ones!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11492480006142609545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-61275643137288778272011-12-30T13:45:20.590-08:002011-12-30T13:45:20.590-08:00This widow stuff is all new to me, but I hated the...This widow stuff is all new to me, but I hated the thought of Thanksgiving and Christmas. I'm not looking forward to a new year without my husband at my side, but I got through the other holidays so I know I'll get throught this one too. We wouldn't have gone out anyway... to many crazies out there that think they can drive home. I'll be spending New Years with one of my daughters and her husband and 2 year old son. My grandson keeps me smiling so it's good that I'm here with them. Whatever everyone decides to do, stay safe.sanadonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07964173065407545374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-722401422572694062011-12-30T13:11:01.413-08:002011-12-30T13:11:01.413-08:00Spending New Year with my cat and dog. Probably ta...Spending New Year with my cat and dog. Probably talking to my friends on facebook who can't get out either. <br /><br />May 2012 bring a better year for all of us. My Widow journey is starting to climb the hills again, but there are still valley's between them. Tonight will be a valley and tomorrow a new hill to conquer.<br /><br />Happy New Year to all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-37894287149090561262011-12-30T13:00:19.582-08:002011-12-30T13:00:19.582-08:00She'd be so damn proud of you. IS proud of you...She'd be so damn proud of you. IS proud of you. <br />If someone's husband tries to pity-kiss me I'm leaving. Maybe I'll leave before that can happen a la your plan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-71193153007857161652011-12-30T09:21:45.859-08:002011-12-30T09:21:45.859-08:00<3 puppy kisses!<3 puppy kisses!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-37031267020747885482011-12-30T09:20:04.382-08:002011-12-30T09:20:04.382-08:00Thanks for your post Chris..yes, we all miss the i...Thanks for your post Chris..yes, we all miss the intimate moments of love and celebration we had with our mates. I choose to believe there will be more down the road, in a different form but still meaningful. For now, my puppy ,too, will be my date and I'll blow you a kiss too at midnight! Here's to hope for 2012!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-42617359342708647552011-12-30T09:12:25.206-08:002011-12-30T09:12:25.206-08:00Always have a plan, and maybe a backup one as well...Always have a plan, and maybe a backup one as well. Good for you for trying, I applaud you for going stag, I find it hard to do even that. The sympathy hugs and lonely widow looks will certainly do me in. And thoughts of everyone saying "happy new year" over and over...yes, I know it is time to move on, and yes, a new year will bring new experiences; but I still want to ring it in as I have with the one I love. It will be a new year, just not a happy one yet.<br /><br />If nothing else, our animal friends are always there for us, no matter what. May those puppy kisses sustain you for now. Thanks, Chris, for a look into your new years eve. Hope your plan works.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com