tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post8573880529284240425..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : The BenchMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-49187790201857038312014-11-12T11:36:41.821-08:002014-11-12T11:36:41.821-08:00yes, he did, Bridie. He knew how to live. He wasn&...yes, he did, Bridie. He knew how to live. He wasn't perfect. But he really liked living, and he was content. <br />Tricia Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133585754425129198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-37739698212721558932014-11-12T02:57:00.192-08:002014-11-12T02:57:00.192-08:00Hi Trish, you and Stan, came up in my meditation t...Hi Trish, you and Stan, came up in my meditation this morning. it came to me like a flash, that you have been loved more than most of us in your short marriage-than we have in a long marriage; because Stan lived every day like it was his last. Bridie. x Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-41238429718312759322014-11-11T02:14:57.495-08:002014-11-11T02:14:57.495-08:00Thank you, Stephanie. Everyday I am reminded of an...Thank you, Stephanie. Everyday I am reminded of another of Stan's many remarkable qualities. We were very lucky, indeed. xxTricia Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133585754425129198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-58270720679249821032014-11-11T02:13:30.575-08:002014-11-11T02:13:30.575-08:00thank you, Karen. I am sorry for your loss, too. I...thank you, Karen. I am sorry for your loss, too. I think, I, too, had an awareness that my time with him was not long--I never thought it would be only 3 1/2 years, but something in me always knew that I would outlive him. I used to creep up next to him when he was sleeping to make sure he was breathing. He would hold his breath and then jump up at me, laughing about how silly I was to be worried about him all the time. When I went to view his body, I thought of all those times. I am sorry for the sudden loss of your husband, too. Life gives us such seemingly cruel turns of events. with love, TriciaTricia Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133585754425129198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-30802703830574214512014-11-10T19:44:57.838-08:002014-11-10T19:44:57.838-08:00What a beautiful tribute, Tricia...Stan sounds lik...What a beautiful tribute, Tricia...Stan sounds like he was a beautiful person. I try to remember how lucky we are to have known and loved these special men. xoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692228819480165657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-78255906681732290072014-11-10T02:26:51.221-08:002014-11-10T02:26:51.221-08:00dear Tricia,
writing about your Stan's having...dear Tricia,<br /><br />writing about your Stan's having some sort of prescience about his death reminded me of something my Hugh used to say; that he could never picture himself as an old man. this was in the earlier years after we married, and I often felt a bit frightened when he said that, but gradually he didn't say it very often. but now I wonder if when he was diagnosed with a cancer that is not curable that the thought occurred to him more, but he wanted to protect me during the times when things were going so well with his treatment. it's so ironic that he was able to achieve such a robust remission and we were free to launch ourselves into a new, re-invented life, that he died so suddenly, quietly and peacefully right next to me in our bed.<br /><br />I am glad that the shrine you so lovingly created for Stan is a comfort to you. and knowing that you will have a bench for those who come to scatter his ashes at the place he loved, where he made sure you knew his wishes about his eternal resting place, and return from time to time to think of him, to sit with him awhile, with the gorgeous and expansive view will help those who love him left with a perspective of how short life is...and ponder a larger and more meaningful look at what is most truly important in living life. <br /><br />again, I am so very sorry for the sudden and devastating loss of your husband. and I am so glad that you are here writing, sharing your story and hopefully feeling the love and care and compassion of so many other aching hearts. <br /><br />much love,<br /><br />Karen xoxtccomments2013https://www.blogger.com/profile/00446394638074551345noreply@blogger.com