tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post8759427989405276464..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : GoodbyesMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-38969371033146657002013-10-29T13:57:30.019-07:002013-10-29T13:57:30.019-07:00I admire that you were willing to risk loving agai...I admire that you were willing to risk loving again. I too, am on this new leg of my grief journey; forming a friendship with a man friend that has turned to a relationship; it is difficult at times because he is not like my husband, and of course not - why would he be? Nobody can be! I am not like his wife, why would I be? We talk openly and a lot about these things and most of the time find that we really aren't comparing as much as noticing differences. I sometimes struggle because what I had with my husband was so special and seemingly so unique, and this relationship not, yet....but then of course, why would it be? It's been 6 months that we've known each other instead of 32 years.......there is a lot of growth that takes place over those years! So, yes, we are confused some of the time, but we choose to keep walking. We've come to the table with our "bags" - some of them "big bags" stuffed with our issues; the more we get to know each other and spend time together in new situations, the more issues that come out - oh well, it's important for those things to come out now, in the light of a friendship with some romance relationship, rather than in the permanence of a marriage relationship. We will see. In the meantime, I'm having fun. Learning about him, learning about me and being cared for and interested in and yes, even laughing. I never thought I'd ever experience those things again. If you had told me when I was in active deep grief, I would have told you, that you were crazy. Time does not heal. But time does march on. Only the love of my husband inside of me keeps me moving forward toward life. Thanks!Mjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10497341946686034149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-78842945055282640002013-10-29T08:41:19.571-07:002013-10-29T08:41:19.571-07:00Cassie, I could have written this post myself. Yo...Cassie, I could have written this post myself. You summed up everything I have been feeling for awhile now. I dated a good man for about 6 months until we starting hitting hurdles we couldn't overcome. We tried on and off to get back together over the last two months without much success. The goodbye is now permanent and I am very sad and very hurt. But I learned that I can love again and allow love back into my life. Like you, I may never find that "blissful" feeling again, but we all deserve it. <br /><br />Hang in there my friend! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-65701709473316649242013-10-28T06:12:29.051-07:002013-10-28T06:12:29.051-07:00Cassie - This is beautifully written and such a go...Cassie - This is beautifully written and such a good explanation of what this relationship has meant to you and has helped you become. It is so much easier to give up hope of being happy again. You also so aptly describe what I am going through myself right now. Scary to put myself out there but how do I grown/learn from where I am if I don't. I do believe you will find that "house" you experienced in your dream. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com