tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post9104427481311451149..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : InstinctMichele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-11296777803158522732010-02-01T05:26:38.870-08:002010-02-01T05:26:38.870-08:00It has been 2 yeas since my husband died. I also h...It has been 2 yeas since my husband died. I also have a knee jerk thought process that is triggered when something funny, sad or important happens. I want to call Mark and tell him, ask him about... It happens less often, but it still happens. It is comforting to read that other widows do this too. I called his work voice mail a few times after he died, just to hear his out going message. I can not bear to do it again. His work may have deleted it by now. I'm scared to to call it and find out. I'm not sure why it even matters. It is painful to see the rest of the world moving forward, but of course it has to. Some days I feel I am moving forward, and it feels like the right thing to do too... Some days I feel stuck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-36869973539328877862010-01-29T20:30:40.921-08:002010-01-29T20:30:40.921-08:00I am sitting here, reading these posts in tears. ...I am sitting here, reading these posts in tears. I think mainly tears of relief to know that someone else experiences and feels the same things. It has been 23 months since Tim died in the accident and even at this very minute I still have a hard time believing it...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-63001938222781628542010-01-27T18:34:46.943-08:002010-01-27T18:34:46.943-08:00I know exactly what you mean.I know exactly what you mean.Jennifer M Karnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07165086439319404271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-75413912646528223032010-01-27T16:54:00.853-08:002010-01-27T16:54:00.853-08:00Me too, me too! Still happens over four years late...Me too, me too! Still happens over four years later...crazy but true. I agree, I think it will keep happening, because they just aren't fully gone to our brains and our hearts - and never will be.Michelle Dippelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174788688244693918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-10810163743379568632010-01-27T11:42:01.423-08:002010-01-27T11:42:01.423-08:00It is so wonderful to know that I'm not the on...It is so wonderful to know that I'm not the only one that has thoughts like this even though it has been 3 years and 1 month since my husband died. Just the other night for no reason I could not stop thinking "is he really dead?" Thank you for saying this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-39543122628913074742010-01-27T09:58:27.089-08:002010-01-27T09:58:27.089-08:00Even at 4 1/2 years out, I'm occasionally stru...Even at 4 1/2 years out, I'm occasionally struck with those moments of wondering how on earth this happened, how he's <i>still</i> dead after 4 1/2 years. But they don't happen often--maybe every few months--and usually aren't triggered by anything concrete or specific. <br /><br />And maybe it was just me, but I can only think of one time where I consciously stopped and thought, "I've got to call Charley and tell him"...and it was about 15-16 months after he died. I'd just heard one of his coworker friends was pregnant with her second child, and I knew he'd be so excited for her. And then a second later, I was mentally slapping myself upside the head over my unconscious reaction. There've been so many, endless times where I've <i>wished</i> he was here, particularly over things with our daughter, but only one or two where I've had those "I gotta call him/Hey, it's Charley on the phone!" moments.<br /><br />Who's to say when or if it will totally ever go away? I wouldn't be surprised if you have them randomly even ten years from now, although I'm guessing you'll have a different reaction--surprise, mostly, and not pain. Sending you many hugs, Janine...and I hope everything is okay with your son.Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-63922720140086262522010-01-27T06:20:42.050-08:002010-01-27T06:20:42.050-08:00I am so relieved to read this, it has been 19 mont...I am so relieved to read this, it has been 19 months and I still at times am just stunned that this is my reality, it is comforting to know that others feel this way. The void is as large as the day it happened....santadebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00254705023136329056noreply@blogger.com