tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post7944351740128710628..comments2024-02-21T02:19:16.755-08:00Comments on Widow's Voice: Seven Widowed Voices Sharing Love, Loss, and Hope : Oh, yes, I'm Running~Michele Neff Hernandezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02356589209090780127noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-15831545953909461902014-10-27T08:08:57.729-07:002014-10-27T08:08:57.729-07:00I was recently introduced to this blog and I find ...I was recently introduced to this blog and I find it so helpful. Your posts are especially meaningful because you're doing what my husband and I planned to do, beginning last summer after I retired. However, this won't happen now because he died 5 months ago. I think what you're doing is wonderful. I have no idea what my life will become as I work my way through the intensity of grief, but I draw strength from your posts.<br />SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-2574907553218552062014-09-30T19:19:23.365-07:002014-09-30T19:19:23.365-07:00And safe journeys for you also, as you navigate yo...And safe journeys for you also, as you navigate your way through this~alisonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031874239296682781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-71559453316209484732014-09-30T19:18:51.816-07:002014-09-30T19:18:51.816-07:00Karen,
I'm touched beyond measure that you too...Karen,<br />I'm touched beyond measure that you took so much time to read my blog. And yes, yes, you absolutely get it, about how this is and what it is. Thank you~alisonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031874239296682781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-30958817553305366392014-09-30T19:17:50.371-07:002014-09-30T19:17:50.371-07:00One of the things I remember most that Chuck said ...One of the things I remember most that Chuck said often is, just suit up and show up. And I'm doing that every day and it means so much to have such support as I find here. I hope you get your hope and can get back to those places you shared with your husband someday~alisonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031874239296682781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-41655207663899284012014-09-30T19:14:51.204-07:002014-09-30T19:14:51.204-07:00Marianne,
If any of us ever came up with a guidebo...Marianne,<br />If any of us ever came up with a guidebook for this, we'd make a million. It really is a matter of doing what feels right at any given moment and keeping moving. And I wonder-aren't you building that life for yourself as you engage with those you love? And isn't it so very important for each of us to feel a part of something and not alone? I'd say you're doing what you need to do to build, same as I am. There's nothing easy about it. Hang in there with it all, and I'll do the same~alisonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031874239296682781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-3219619355867185492014-09-26T06:56:23.700-07:002014-09-26T06:56:23.700-07:00Hello, you r right there's no getting away fro...Hello, you r right there's no getting away from the grief.. U take it with you..it's the hand we were dealt.. I wish u safe journey..take it all in.. Gods speed...1974https://www.blogger.com/profile/03452038541844071655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-60627139585852563772014-09-25T22:29:50.440-07:002014-09-25T22:29:50.440-07:00dear Alison,
I read your blog from beginning to e...dear Alison,<br /><br />I read your blog from beginning to end, and I do not think that you are in any way running away from your grief. I read each entry both before Chuck;s death, and those of the many days and months after he died. I envision you running through your grief; after all you and Chuck were together on the road for a long time, and just as some of us grieve in our homes and other close surroundings, your trailer and car and much of was familiar is what triggers and assaults you with the reality of the absence of him where you both were, where you and he lived out a big chunk of intimate time together. I would think it would be the opposite case if you had decided never to go back on the road, to avoid all the places, all the experiences, the sounds, the tastes, the smells, the views, the terrain, the things that became such moving and everlasting imprints that etched themselves so indelibly upon your heart, your mind, your soul, you entire being, you and your Chuck together. your Chuck was so wise in his love for you - I marvel at his intuitiveness that sent you back on the road, back onto an experience that he hoped would help you find yourself, find your after life, while carrying out his wishes for where he wanted his remains scattered. his request was so noble, and you are fulfilling it with so much love, love that hurts so bad I can't even imagine. I hold you up into the brightest light of hope that you will find what Chuck wanted for you, that it will be what you want for you, keeping your heart open just as you have promised. <br /><br />much love,<br /><br />Karen XOXOtccomments2013https://www.blogger.com/profile/00446394638074551345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-54307567495781275062014-09-24T20:32:40.162-07:002014-09-24T20:32:40.162-07:00Alison, I also think that you are running through ...Alison, I also think that you are running through your grief, not away from it. I can say this because I am doing the running away thing in my life. I can't go to any places we went together, even places like our regular grocery store, shops or restaurants. And I am selling our house and trying to move away from this area. When I think of traveling, I plan to go only to places that we never went together or we didn't have any plans to go together. That's running away and I know it. I hope to be able to revisit 'our places' some day, but it won't be any time soon. So your travels seem extremely brave to me. Not at all running away. Keep going!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268746983441346507.post-42193084160037179952014-09-24T06:39:38.766-07:002014-09-24T06:39:38.766-07:00In February it will be three years since my new &q...In February it will be three years since my new "life" began, but the running didn't begin until two years ago June when I could finally retire from teaching - how could I continue without him teaching in the other wing of our building? - when I would be free for more than just two months to get away from everything that used to be so precious. I began traveling three interstates in three neighboring states to visit parents and children, and I went as often as possible. Yes, you need to come home occasionally to pick up mail, pay bills, and generally check on things, but then I was free to "run" again. I've asked my grief counselor if my method of coping was healthy, and a year ago she said it was. Wonder what she would say now? All I know is that when I'm gone from this empty home and surrounded by family I feel part of something and loved and not so very sad and alone. But there are times I ask myself if I'll ever be able to build a new life until I"m willing to stay in one place for awhile. So many many times I've wished for a guidebook to help me get through this sad life I've found myself in. Sadly, there don't seem to be any.<br /><br />MarianneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com