...and the widowed woman.
I'll say it: we had traditional gender roles for some things in our family: I did most of the cooking and grocery shopping; Greg did most of the home maintenance and yard work.
....and while I can change a tap washer and hammer a nail, there are some jobs which will always be beyond my capabilities.
Greg trimmed the large trees in our yard several years ago. He pruned branches and mulched leaves. Any fallen trees disappeared amongst machinery noise, but not much fuss.
Greg was a farm boy. I remember him using chainsaw to clean up logs for
a pole-shed he was building on one of my first visits to the farm. The
chainsaw had a blade that was about 4ft long.... it was massive. He
handled it like a butter knife.
...and so you can understand the monumental effort I have been through to find someone handy enough with a chainsaw that I could trust to fall a an old bauhinia tree without either hurting themselves or the neighbours house which was overhung with branches.
But finally, another farm-boy has come to my rescue this week. .... in the form of Greg's sister's husband.
I mentioned my tree problem on one of the recent visits to Brisbane and then they were here with chainsaw and a spare and he had the tree down and chopped up into manageable pieces in half a day.
But unlike with Greg, I was his lackey - moving branches out of the way and pruning the thin branches for mulching from the thick branches for stacking.
It really made me stop and appreciate just what a dynamo Greg really was .... he made light of the heaviest labour.
Just another way he was completely amazing, and just another way I completely miss him.
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Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Spilling Over

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like they are coping most of the time but then something comes up that's kind of significant, but kind of not and then you feel as lost, scared and alone as you did right back at the beginning?
...and then everything just spills over?
I was doing OK. I had started the new school year with an entirely new mandated curriculum and I was OK. I had everything planned out so that it would be fairly cruisy.
...and then I was given a second year level to plan across.
...and the stress built, but I was OK.
....and then a Huge Scary Python started visiting my chicken's cage every night (it's body is thicker than my arm).
...and I started to crack a little. Greg is the person who dealt with scary creatures.
...and then?
...then we had 10 inches of rain in two days.
...and then I discovered that all the money I've spent on drainage and fixing the problem from when it happened last time only mitigated the problem: there was water seeping into my garage again.
....and suddenly, I really wasn't OK.
All of these stresses suddenly became insurmountable: too much for me to deal with.
...and meanwhile, I'm determinedly 'coping' lest my boss think I wasn't coping and take away work.
...and my friends are telling me how strong I am (when they don't see me weeping in the shower at midnight).
But then, Just One Person does something positive for me, without me needing to beg and suddenly I can cope again. I can pick up the pieces and keep moving forward.
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