.... yep, the only one. The one thing that makes Jim's death bearable is that (see above).
If you've never seen that picture ..... then you need to know that it's a room FULL of widowed people. Widowed people of all ages, stages in life ..... pregnant, brand-spanking-newly widowed, widowed with small children, widowed with teenagers (thus a very good reason to get out of the house), widowed with adult children, widowed with no children, widowed and re-married, widowed and then widowed again, older widowed, younger widowed.
That picture was taken at Camp Widow. This year, in less than 2 months (oh my goodness I'm trying to not hyperventilate at that thought!) we will be hosting our Fourth annual Camp Widow in San Diego. It will actually be our FIFTH Camp Widow, because we had our first one on the east coast back in April.
If you've never been to Camp Widow you can't know what an amazingly fun time we have. If you've never been you probably don't know what it feels like to be in a room full of 200+ people who "get you" and they do indeed get "it".
When you come to Camp Widow it's like you can take that huge, heavy load of "being widowed" off of your back and feel lighter for the first time in probably a long time.
Ironically enough, we don't see each other with the labels that others put on us. We see each other as people. Beautiful people who are survivors. We see into each other's heart and we find the personality that's sometimes buried beneath the widowed load.
If you've never been to Camp Widow then you may not know what it feels like to be understood .... without having to say a word. You will meet another widowed person and instantly know that you will probably be friends for life. You will learn that you are very, very normal.
You will learn that the things you have done in your own timing have been done at the perfect time.
You will learn new things about this path we all walk on. You might pick up some new ideas about making choices on this path. And you might meet someone who's a bit behind you on this path .... thus giving them the encouragement they need to keep walking.
Just because you came.
Yes, you will definitely learn that you are not crazy. And that you are probably a lot more normal than you'd like to be. :)
But the most important thing that you will learn .... that each and every one of us has learned these past 4+ years ...... is that
P.S. If you'd like to volunteer or have any questions email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
P.P.S. You all can help us spread the word about Soaring Spirits by going to our Facebook page and "liking" us. There are way too many widowed people out there who have no idea that support is available to them. The more "likes" we get, the more visible we'll be to those people who think they're all alone.
Thanks for helping spread encouragement!