Friday, November 11, 2011


Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
-Lao Tzu

It's Veteran's Day, and it comes every year with many people asking what I'll be doing. How I'll be honoring a day that my husband fought and died to be recognized as a part of.

I guess in a way these days (Veteran's and Memorial Day) are not so much any different then yesterday or the day before, as they're days that I daily am reminded of with Michael's absence...with his uniforms that hang lifeless in the closet...with the flag displayed on the shelf. But it's a day brought to the attention to those outside of my realm, and so a day that I am able to talk about him a bit more and know he's being remembered.

So my answer for what I will do tomorrow is: Remember his strength and courage, Remember the love that was shown to him and that he showed others that gave him the ability to sacrifice his all in the name of sanctifying those attributes and the root of their being. I'll reflect on how lucky I am that he chose me, not only to love but to bear his legacy and what he stood for in the case he would never return. I'll think of the men and women of the military that allowed him to flourish in his passion in life and allowed him the ability to die having found it. I'll think of April 9th, 2007, the last time I kissed him in the airport. I'll think of the many like me who shared that kiss they never thought would be there last. I'll think about those that came before him and after him in serving our country. I'll remember that in my darkest hours to tap into what he embodied. I'll think of how proud I am of him and how I hope to make him proud, too...

I'll think about what I think about each and every day.


  1. "They went with songs to the battle, they were young.
    Straight of limb, true of eyes, steady and aglow.
    They were staunch to the end against odds uncounted,
    They fell with their faces to the foe.

    They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:
    Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
    At the going down of the sun and in the morning,
    We will remember them."

    Lest we forget.


  2. What a wonderful tribute to Michael! Thank you for reminding me that I was chosen by my very dear sweet husband. That will keep me going today.

    You are a very brave young woman!!!!

  3. Thank you Taryn for this post. HUGS to you for the each and everyday - thank you for being here for us through widow's voice blog- your sharing validates us - I can certainly relate to "I'll think about what I think about each and every day." Society usually wants to focus on THOSE trigger days for them...being ok to inquire. Major Holidays, For those of us with children...Father's & Mother's Day being the most annoying focused on...Everyday is a day with out them and us doing the best we can to be strong.

  4. Beautiful tribute to your husband who deserves to be honored by all of us for his service and courage.

  5. I also felt comfortable talking about my husband on Veteran's Day, as he was an Air Force veteran when he died. I posted several pictures on FB that day, and others mentioned him in their own posts. There were several threads about him, and that made me feel better. Thanks for this post, Taryn.