If you didn't wear your hair a certain way, or talk a certain way, or look a certain way, you most definitely had issues....at least with those that felt that following suit was the only way to live.
As you get older, you start to realize that your unique quirks make you who you are. That odd tendency or awkward birth mark become a thing of pride.
I've realized that the same goes with widow-hood.
In the beginning I had everyone and their dog trying to tell me what and how I needed to do things.
There were moments I felt that I had no choice but to please them.
But just like growing up, I started to realize that the things I wanted to do, the way I wanted to live, were not hindrances, but simply put...me.
Being different...unique...true to you....is the only way to go on this journey.
Those "birthmarks" of life are a beautiful thing if you just allow yourself to see it with new eyes. They are a thing of pride.
So live you.
Questionable (to some or all).
But do you and as I've learned, you'll never be dissapointed or made to feel that you're the odd one out.
You won't regret it.