you do not stop."
And while I think Confucius was a very wise man, I disagree with him on one small point, that really isn't so small: You can stop. You can take many stops on those days when moving forward takes more energy than you have.
Just don't stay stopped.
I've spent time with those who have stayed stopped ...... who have not moved forward in a very long time.
That choice is not for me. It's not what my kids want for me and it's certainly not what Jim would've wanted. Nor I for him.
And I hope it's not what you want.
Because no matter how difficult this is to hear ...... and I know that it is ...... Life is for the living.
And there's a lot of living to be had out there ...... even while we grieve. Don't wait to live, thinkig that you'll do it when the grief goes away. You'll never live.
The grief is here. It becomes far less overwhelming and it loses the capacity to drop you to your knees, or pull you down that dark cave, but it's always there.
And that's the way it should be. You had a love. You experienced love. Hopefully they were both great.
In my opinion, great love never goes away.
If great love never goes away then we cannot expect our grief for that love to go away.
But I promise you this ...... it becomes much easier to live with.
So keep progressing.
Move forward when you can.
Don't stop for good.
And keep breathing.
I promise it's worth it.