We write about widowhood as we live it. Together we examine the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of life as a widowed person. The views expressed here are those held by each individual author. We take no credit for their brillance; we just provide them with a forum for expressing their widowed journey in words that are uniquely their own.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Another
I had a conversation yesterday with a widower.
He's three months ahead of me
He wanted to meet me after his sister, a friend, showed him my black widow photo.
It was a conversation that felt good, connected and real.
It was a conversation with laughter and head nodding (which he didn’t see cause we were on the phone.)
It was a conversation of understanding.
It was a conversation of “Oh!! ME TOO!”
It was a conversation of faith.
It was a conversation of regret.
It was a conversation of courage and hope.
It was a conversation that made me sad.
It was a conversation that afterwards made me cry
for all that we both have lost.
It was a conversation that made me sigh for all that we have gained.
It was a conversation that reminded me that with pain comes wisdom
and hope
and
profound tenderness.
It was a conversation that made me realize (again) that while I didn’t want this life, I am moved by it
and
odd enough,
grateful for it.
Grateful because I can have a conversations with a widower and see my inspiring journey reflected in his words.
I can’t wait to talk to him again.
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You've said this perfectly, Kim. I've had similar conversations ... and felt the same. The understanding, the "me, too", the compassion. I, too, find I'm grateful for these connections even though I would give the world to not be where I am right now.
ReplyDeleteEXACTLY!! "....I didn't want this life, I am moved by it and odd enough, grateful for it" couldn't have said it better. Thank you!
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