Wednesday, August 1, 2012
With this ring
I wanted to address a question another widow asked me a few weeks ago about what I've done with my wedding rings since I've gotten remarried.
When Jeremy died, his ring went on the necklace he originally proposed to me with. I still wear it. I didn't take off my wedding rings til the day Steve proposed to me. I couldn't - they meant too much to me and I never felt 'single.' Maybe that sounds weird, especially after I started dating again, but I will always wear the title as Jeremy's wife. I'm very proud of it. Steve never felt threatened by that, and he knew it was very special to me.
Now I am still very much attached to these rings. When Steve gave me a beautiful new ring, I put my rings from Jeremy on my necklace along with his. This is where they all currently live. Steve was very gracious about this sensitive subject and offered to let me do whatever I wanted with the rings: keep them as is, combine them with something he would give me, or get a new ring. I chose to get a new ring that symbolized our relationship and because I knew that one day, my ring would be something special to pass down to my daughter.
I would be interested to know what other widow(er)s have done with their wedding rings. I often find myself worrying about losing my rings now and I honestly think I would lose it if that happened, so I wonder if I'll need to put them away someday soon. I know there are a lot of options and I know eventually, I'll have to decide on one.