On Mother's Day, Widow's Voice alumnus writer Jackie Hannam-Chandler posted these words:
...and what you describe fits me to a 'T'.... I worked in forestry for a while and picked up the dialect..... I elevate swearing to literary genre.
In other words - the F-word makes its appearance when I am stressed.
In our house, we don't do elaborate holidays, or expensive presents.
We do home grown and home made.
And I lose my
Jackie wrote: I hope that as they look back at their childhood and shake their heads at my mothering foibles, they also realize that it is okay to be themselves, to be real, to mess up, to be "authentic". Their mama sure was.
Just like Jackie, I hope that my kids can look back on their childhood and not see the messed-up stuff that has happened since their father died, that they see my failings for what they are (grief and stress) and that they also understand that it is important to be themselves and feel their feelings.
Its OK to mess-up.
It's OK to stress about things.
It's even OK to chuck a tanty and swear your head off, so long as you back it up with positives and lots and lots of love.
That grief can change you and bend you, but not break you.
To live your life as a REAL person, and not a phoney.
To live an Authentic Life.
So I am putting my hand up as being an Authentic Mum (thanks to Jackie) .... with all of my faults. ...and after receiving my mother's day card (above) I reckon that I am doing OK....
In fact, I think Greg would be proud....