I am sitting here, marvelling at how far I’ve come since
March 1, 2010; I am a different person with the same heart.
I can now look back and remember the sharp, stabbing grief
of that day. The insanity.
The weeks and months directly afterward where I alternated between shrieking
pain and dense fog; I rocked and cried or I floated behind a thin wall, a sense
of being elsewhere and detached.
The forced smile at work and the tears as I left the gate each day.
The craziness at home. My children .. my poor children.
The first BirthdaysFathersDayChristmasNewYear without him. All the firsts. I distinctly remember the first day I brought my children back to school afterwards and broke down at the gate, and the angel of a friend who saw me and walked me in. She knew.
The depression of the seemingly endless blackhole that stretched in front of me.
The hideous instability caused by my old boss who made it harder for me than it needed to be (because he is a petty, stupid man).
The desperation that I never spoke of. To anyone.
The hopelessness. The feeling of Just Not Bothering to do more than exist for the sake of my children; there were days that their presence stood (unknowingly) between me and oblivion. I couldn’t hurt them, so I continued on.
....and the meeting of a person whose mind is like my own. Whose situation is like my own and whose heart is like my own. Healing slowly, together.
I love you.
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DeleteI relate to so much of what you said in the first paragraphs that it gives me hope to read what you said in the ending ones. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteGood - sometimes it is hard to see the hope.
Delete'Different person with the same heart.' I feel the same. Reading your words, I felt them. From deep sadness and pain to living again and sunshine, compared to the darkness we've been through. I am on that journey. I've reached the sunshine and it's beautiful :) thanks for your post. It gives me hope of finding love after a deep loss
ReplyDeleteMy husband died in April 2010, when I first started looking for resources to help me through my grief (which didn't happen until mid-2011, I found WV and your two blogs. I read every blog post and just wanted to say that reading your blogs, plus your messages here definitely helped me along my journey. So, thank you for sharing with us, and giving us reasons to hope!
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