Saturday, September 4, 2010


This Sunday will mark my baby's 26th birthday....or 4th birthday in heaven. However you want to look at it.

Birthday's we're always such a happy time but even three year's later, the angst of certain holidays never weaken with time.

I remember when I had my 23rd birthday...I had officially had lived longer then my soul mate. Though that birthday was hard and not being able to celebrate his with him is equally difficult, I try to use these days to celebrate who he is/was/continues to be in my life.

I like to buy him cards and have them displayed on these special days, because for me, he's on this journey with me as much as I am with him. Ups, downs, and all.

Tonight, as shuffling through the card aisle of Wal-Mart, I found one I thought fit perfectly. I'd like to share it below:


Real love takes more than flowers

means more than

beautiful words.

Real Love means keeping promises...

holding on when you don't want to, being strong so that others may rest.

And as time and change

swirl around us,

the love we share

stands quietly (or loudly in my case) in the midst of our lives,

forever beautiful,

forever real.


Sometimes I stop and think

about what we've been through

together- the good, the bad,

and everything in between.

And I realize that there's

no one I'd rather share

my life with than you.

Happy Birthday to the Man I Love (and I'm in love with)

I love you, baby, and am SO in love with you. The only gift I can think of getting you is the one you give me day in and day out...and that is my unconditional, unwavering, undying love.

Happy Birthday!


  1. Very touching post. I feel the same way. I recently went thru my love's 1st birthday without him and 1st Anniversary of his passing just the other day. I too still buy husband cards to tell him how I still feel about him and always will.
    I too spent both of those days celebrating his life and who is was and continues to be: my husband my love, always.

  2. Today marks 5 months since I lost the love of my life, my soul mate...father of my children, and I had to face his birthday just 1 week after his death. I found the day to be extremely difficult but we did celebrate him and all toasted with YooHoo's (he loved that drink). We always liked giving cards to each other and I always cringe when I walk by the card isle in the grocery store. Maybe I should embrace it and buy a card for him next time :)

  3. Yesterday, 9/3 was my husband's birthday, he died on 4/22/10 and the idea of his not being here for his 58th birthday has caused me a great deal of pain and sorrow. what a wonderful husband, father and helper he was. I love him dearly and always will. Thanks for the ideas of how to handle our loved one's birthday, as I can see from the other posts that this is hard for others. I didn't realize others were as bothered by it as I. It comforts me to know this.

  4. I lost my husband almost a year ago. I like the way you still get him a card. I think there will be times that will always be hard. We will always love them, but someone new will just have to understand this. I am so very happy for this blog, because like someone else said, it is so nice to know I am not alone.

  5. This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

  6. Wow thank you for sharing this. This is beautiful.
    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. And thank you for letting me know that I am not alone in wanting to get cards for my soul mate. His birthday is in Jan and his first Heavenly birthday is in March. Phew. Still got a lot of firsts and I cringe when I walk by the card aisle.