Our traditions have changed a bit in the past 5 years though. We not only plan tricks and treats, we now celebrate the Day of the Dead - or All Souls Day. The Day of the Dead is the 2nd day after Halloween, and the day before the deathaversary (5 years). We'll collect sugar skulls, marigolds, coffee, a little jack daniel's, some beef jerky, and whatever of Daniel's favorites we come up with, and we'll head to the cemetery to decorate his grave. Sometimes family come with us, sometimes it's just us. We go no matter what.
This year will have another layer of meaning. Our dog, who mourned for months after Daniel died (she licked her feet until they bled and walked the house whining for him for what seemed like forever), passed away in June. Her ashes are ready, and Grayson wants to put them with Daniel. I can't think of a better place. We'll do that this weekend when we decorate for the Day of the Dead.
The tradition has become one we look forward to, and in some strange way it makes us feel closer to Daniel. I imagine him sipping his Jack and coke while watching us place the various items on his grave. I imagine him tasting the different treats and noticing how tall Grayson has grown. I imagine him putting his arms around us as we look at the black stone with his name and dates carved on it. In whatever way he can be, he'll be with us. It's an odd and special day for us, and I'm looking forward to it.
Happy Tuesday! - Michelle D.